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I am 19 and I started to hang out with two different girls at the same time, and when I introduced them to each other it turned out that they were in the same high school.
They were quite polite with each other, but only in front of me, cause I can see that they’re not truly well... friends.
One of them is a gorgeous blond who can be a model and the other is well.. below average looking.
My friend who’s below average would talk shit about my pretty friend behind her back and tell me how boring and dumb she is, and my pretty friend told me once that this girl used to bully her A LOT in high school, for nothing, and I can sense that my below average looking friend ressent her more while she’s actually very sweet and kind.
My mom told me once, that it can be because she’s jealous of my good looking friend and that’s why she hated her so much. I’m average looking so I never experienced jealousy nor did I got jealous of prettier girls, but can a girl truly resent another one just for being better looking?

I've been trying to be friends with this guy for a year now. He's a friend of 2 close friends of mine who are a couple and we always have dinner the four of us. When we met, he was going through a very hard break up (it was recent and she had even threatened to kill herself) hence he goes to therapy.

A year later, he's much more relaxed and open. But what has always bothered me is that he doesn't seem to want to develop a friendship: he doesn't want to hang out (neither in a group nor alone unless a close friend of his will be there). Now, I have to respect this, even though I don't understand why this is.

Sometimes I think he doesn't give a crap about me but when I invite him to important events in my life he shows up without hesitation, and he invites me to be a part of important events in his life as well. He even replies long , important texts with long texts. And whenever we see each other, he'll ask about things I told him the last time we saw each other. I mean, any other guy wouldn't do this if he genuinely didn't care. He even organizes for us 4 to hang out, so, again, a person's niceness can only go so far, meaning I don't think he's just being nice.

I don't think I've ever given him a wrong impression because I've asked him to tag along in group settings 95% of the time. So, I just don't think it's related to him 'thinking I like him so he distances himself'.

I seriously don't know what to do. We're clearly not on the same page. I'm interested in getting to know him as a person, but he puts up this barrier. I don't want to look like the 'clingy' one. I don't want to invest time nor feelings if it's going to be for nothing. If I talk through with him it'd have to be over text, which I don't want to cause I hate talking these things through text. And I just can't wait any longer cause next time we get to be 5 minutes alone could be I don't know months from now.
Should I throw the towel or wait and talk it out?