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80-89% of marriages end in divorce with the woman taking the children and the man in her mercy

Single men are not allowed to adopt a child unless he is gay or Trans

Many women don't want the other parent to be involved in their own children lives

Which kid would you rather have? A child of your own blood who was an utter disappointment and failure, no matter what you did or how hard you tried to raise them, who fought you every step of the way?

Or an adopted child, who looks nothing like you, isn't the same ethnicity as you, and is the opposite gender of you, but is everything you can have hoped for and more?

EXAMPLE 1: You have a 15 year old daughter conceived of your own blood, and they look like you and/or the other parent. Regardless of your parenting skills, they are lazy, greedy, spoiled, entitled, narcissistic, a drama queen, abusive, manipulative, disloyal, and always hurting others, but claiming to be the victim. They are a constant marijuana and tobacco smoker. They can't even pass remedial, "special-learner" classes in school, and want to join OnlyFans when they turn 18, despite not being the least bit attractive or healthy.

EXAMPLE 2: You have a 15 year old adopted daughter. Regardless of your parenting skills, they are a black belt in martial arts (karate, tae kwon do, or jiu jitsu), the top student in their school, on course to graduate early, have won awards for youth science contests, is saving their virginity for marriage, and is overall a kind, helpful caring human being.

You can only choose one. Which one is better for you?

I'm curious. I expect my personal opinion be very uncommon. I would vastly prefer not to have kids. It's not that I don't like kids, I'm just kind of afraid she will neglect our relationship if we have kids. I have seen people divorce because one parent is so focused on being around their kids so much that they ended up losing interest in intimacy and didn't care about spending time with their spouse. That would honestly crush me because the only thing I really want in my life is a close marriage where we put our relationship first. I'm aware parents have to put their kids needs first, which is fine, but in terms of kid's demands, I would be pretty depressed if she would rather fulfill them than spend time with me. I would always put our relationship first, unless it is something necessary for our kid's mental/physical health, and only prioritize things that the kids actually need, not want. I don't think it would be fair to me if I was in a relationship where I loved her a lot more than she loved me and her goal was to have kids but mine was to have a close marriage (like the cliché 'true love' 😂).

We complain about abortion, marriage rates, promiscuity, failing nuclear families, cheaters, divorce rates, and child birth rates. Promiscuity can be directly linked to all of these issues. Of course nobody likes to be told they can’t do something and in today’s world where the rights of a few are prioritized over the needs of the many and new open ideas are overly idolized I doubt such changes would be made much less accepted…

I’m going to counter some arguments I see coming up front.

won't people will just hide their having sex?
Sure just like they hide the fact they murder and avoid taxes. This will lead to lower abortion rates for sure even if it’s only one or two.

Back alley abortions will become more prominent.
Even our most agreed upon laws get broken fairly regularly. Murder, rape, theft, assault; these are committed every day. We need accountability. You choose sex a baby is a possibility. You shirk your responsibility and choose a dangerous procedure that could cost you your life. When someone drinks and gets behind the wheel then kills a kid it’s tragic. When they sober up their devastated. So then do we forgo punishment because he’s sorry? No we hold him responsible so he and everyone else witnessing his situation avoids the situation that got him here. This is accountability.

Well what if a woman gets raped!
Yes the possibility of rape victims being further victimized by this law is a problem but that’s not something we considered when #believeallwomen became a thing. A law like this would reduce the claims of rape and actual rapes by reducing the focus of sex in our society.

I don’t want to be told I can’t have sex if I want; its my right!
Your told you cannot do many things you accept but may not agree with. Half the country believes you have to abandon your property if someone breaks into your home and you can run away the other half thinks they should be able to protect their property with lethal force if necessary so how is this different?