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So, I was texting a friend of mine (actually discussing a MyTake; How to become attractive to women. How to stop fearing women. A guide for dudes who are UTTERLY HOPELESS with women. ), and how I have my own issues with women; mainly being short, ugly, dark, fat/obese, etc. (things I'm all somewhat okay with, aside from the height, but they are not).

And my internal struggle is whether I should give up women altogether, since it seems to be an effort in futility and a massive waste of time and energy, or keep trying to find someone special while working on improving myself (like the author of that MyTake said). Most of my improvement needs to come from within and focusing on being stoic and more calm and accepting with myself, and the outside world, which I kinda hate.

Really, I can't/don't want to, do both. I can either focus on myself and my own happiness, or seek love, companionship, sex, intimacy, etc, from women. I know people always say "you need to be fine with yourself first," but... That's kinda bullsh*t. And it's coming from people who already have a ton of self-esteem and generally zero issues with dating. On some days, I feel like the MGTOW crowd has it right all along and I should just focus on self-growth and happiness. And on other days, I'm just ridiculously lonely, and see how other people, who put in less than a fraction of the work I do on self-improvement, still have these happy, amazing relationships.

So I was discussing all of this with my female friend. And while she didn't give me an answer to the problem, because she's a romantic and loves love (and also a woman, so can't relate to what it's like to be alone indefinitely and unable to meet someone), she did tell me that line.
"25 to 33% of all women are bitches." Implying I SHOULD stop focusing on them.

And I can't exactly disagree. I know; in Current Year; you're NEVER not supposed to kiss women's asses at all times, but like I said, their asses aren't worth kissing.