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I just want to put myself out there, because I'm trying hard to pinpoint what it is that I'm doing wrong. I stopped looking for a girlfriend, and I really do want an honest, deep, loving relationship, but right now, it just seems impossible, like anyone I like doesn't like me back, or... the feelings aren't mutual, or whatever the case may be.

After being ghosted a few times, I just want to put out there who I am and what I'm like to date and see if it is just me, or another factor.

I am a man. 34. I work with disabled youth to help get them workplace readiness training, etc to get them employed. I like riding my bicycle, and going fishing. I work out occasionally and I do the Netflix binge every now and again. I have great patience and I try to not argue over anything. I give 100% of myself in a relationship, putting a strong emphasis on trust and communication. I can be very honest, brutally, but I do respect opinions and I get told all the time how sweet I am and how lovable it is to talk to me. My Internet friends all tell me they fall in love with my voice.

No matter what I do... no matter who I try to date, I always find someone else in the picture or they just aren't interested, or "I'm focusing on me now," but it never works. I'm absolutely gobsmacked as to why. I am very giving and I just want a nurturing person to love me back, not someone who doesn't appreciate me for what I give, but someone who does and gives it back at the same level. I live by myself, have a cat, and I am always, always honest. No mind games or trials to overcome.

What is wrong? Am I really that bad of a person to not want to date?

If you said that you have never gotten angry at a partner, you've either never had a partner or it's a brand new experience for you. If you are in a relationship long enough to get past the honeymoon phase, you will experience conflicts and anger. It's inevitable. The test of a good relationship is not WHETHER you have conflicts but HOW you resolve them.

Sometimes, couples argue about silly things: "Why did you move the cheese?" or "Why do you always leave the lid up on the toilet?" That usually means there is a larger issue that is not being addressed and the anger is coming out "sideways" but sometimes, your partner may have just had a bad day at the office and the least little aggravation can set them off at home.

When arguments happen near bedtime, it isn't always possible to get it resolved before going to sleep. When I get in bed with my girlfriend and the harsh feelings are still on the surface, she will usually lie on her side, facing away from me. I move over so I am behind her, spooned with her, I put my arm around her, and I whisper in her ear, "Even when I'm angry, I still love you and I'm glad you're in my life. We'll get this resolved tomorrow morning, we'll still be in love with each other, and we'll have a better day. I love you. Goodnight."

The purpose of saying this is not to sweep the conflict under the rug. If it is a significant issue, it needs to be addressed. But I know that my girlfriend has a bit of insecurity and she panics when we have a conflict. She thinks that we are going to break up and she starts -internally - to freak out about being alone, moving out, etc. I want to put her fears to rest and make her feel better so she can go to sleep. Every time this happens, it helps her to feel more secure about us, and that makes me feel good.

Have you ever done this?