Blood Is Thicker Than Water" Debunked
Hi guys and girls. I hope your day is going fantastic! In this MyTake, I will be covering 8 reasons why the saying "blood is thicker than water" is emotionally and psychologically untrue and unsupported. This saying is the idea that "relationships and loyalties within a family are the strongest and most important ones." The origin of the saying comes from โThe blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.โ This actually means that "blood shed in battle bonds soldiers more strongly than simple genetics." Today we have evolved the saying to the strength of family ties. It is very interesting how this saying had been interpreted over the years. So I will debunk the current saying for 8 different reasons. If you would like any follow up mytakes please leave feedback. Please share your story in the comments section if you like๐๐๐
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1. Destroys Self Esteem
Self Esteem is one of the most important things we all need in high doses. Having self esteem improves anxiety, depression, and encourages transitional development as we age. Self Esteem can also increase ones confidence. With confidence you feel powerful, capable, and worthy. So if you have a relative that is constantly butchering your self esteem and confidence then don't ignore it. Relatives have creative ways of getting under our skin to manipulate our thoughts and feelings. Has a relative ever called you derogatory names? Do you have a relative that dismisses your accolades and achievements? Has a relative ever made you feel inadequate or less than? You should not ever excuse this behavior or condone it simply because of biological relation. If someone is toxic they are toxic regardless of blood.
2. Physical /Sexual Abuse
Physical abuse in the household is not something anyone wants to talk about but it happens. About five children die everyday from child abuse. 1:3 girls and 1:5 boys will be sexually abused but the age of 18. 90% of child abuse victims know their offender. 68% of cases filed for abuse say that these children were abuse by a family member. Approximately 2.9 million cases of child abuse are reported annually. With these numbers I hope it is apparent that just because someone is "family" does not excuse such atrocious behavior. It is important not to make excuses for their behavior and to not blame yourself for the malicious acts of another. The truth is that not all of your relatives are going to protect you or even support you. So speak your truth and do not condone or excuse physically abusive behavior.
3. Sabotage
Sabotage is never fun. Sabotage happens when someone intentionally destroys, damages, or obstructs you from your wishes, dreams, and wants. For example, does your relatives tend to always give bad or destructive advice? Do they try to intentionally tell you positive things while actively trying to destroy your character in the background? Do they spread gossip? Has a family member stolen your identity or money? Has a family member ever taken advantage of you? Relatives are sometimes closest to you, which is why they can sabotage your life easier than anyone else. Would you make this relationship a priority just because their "family"?
4. Takes Advantage
You can be taken advantage of by anyone but your relatives do it the most. They know you, your background, and probably your finances. They will take any opportunity to get ahead and that usually involves someone taking advantage of your kindness. Has a relative ever overstayed their welcome when you let them stay on your couch? Has a relative ever asked you for money and never pays it back? Has a relative ever taken an opportunity from you? Some relatives never want you to succeed if it doesn't benefit them. Do not allow yourself to be taken advantage of. If it happens you have to speak up in the moment or make a boundary for acceptable behavior. People who truly care about another do not take advantage of the ones they love. Could you ignore being taken advantage of simply because their your "blood" relatives?
5. Spreads Malicious Gossip
We all know how harmful gossip can be. Especially when it is exaggerated and lacks consistency. Has a relative ever started a rumor about you? Did you ever eavesdrop and overhear a relative bad mouthing you to their friends or other relatives? If you have relatives like this it is best to avoid them when possible. Take great care and effort to not give them anything to talk about. I am not saying be perfect but I am saying that keeping information to yourself is critical to help prevent gossip and rumors from spreading. Loved ones don't spread malicious gossip.
6. Shows No Loyalty
Loyalty is an act of allegiance. Do your relatives keep spreading your secrets? Do they constantly throw you under the bus? They NEVER back you up or support you? Loyalty is not a trait everyone possesses but if you can't even trust a relative who do you trust? Trusting relationships are forged and nurtured in the home first. If you cannot trust a relative to be loyal to you then it will complicate the way you form connections with non relatives. Sometimes the most loyal people you can meet are colleagues and friends. So be mindful of those who show you loyalty and those who do not. Relatives are not always loyal. If they were then the saying above ๐๐๐ would hold more truth.
7. Constant Lies
No one likes a liar. The reason why is because you cannot trust one. I had a relative who would lie about anything and everything in an attempt to seem more financially stable, desirable, and intelligent. It is infuriating and frustrating when you begin to question whatever is coming out of a relatives mouth. It makes forming new relationships more difficult because you will eventually start to distrust everyone and everything. When someone constantly lies and insults your intelligence it can make you feel unworthy, angry, guilty, shameful, etc. So now ask yourself, would you value this type of relationship above all others?
8. Let's You Down/Disappoints
Relatives and guardians are the first ones in your life and at some point they will let you down and disappoint you. It is very normal and common but if a relative is doing it so often that you feel frustrated then that's a problem. For example, have you ever loaned a relative money and never got the money back when you needed it? Has a relative ever said they would stay by your side during a difficult time and when you call, they never pick up or show any interest in your problems? Do you have a relative addicted to drugs? How about do you have a relative that's a criminal? Could you really value these relationships and put them above all others simply because you have a blood connection? It's not only illogical it's practically unethical.
Thank you guys for stopping by and leaving feedback. If you would like any follow up mytakes for clarification please let me know. My closing remarks for the readers is this, there is no concrete evidence that supports the idea that biological relationships are stronger or more significant than any of your other relationships. It is your job to be able to judge and be mindful of the behavior of others you surround yourself with. Then be able to walk away or change any relationship that no longer serves you. I want to make it clear that friends, colleagues, acquaintances, roommates, etc can all demonstrate these same maladaptive behaviors but for the sake of this article debunking the idea that "blood is thicker than water" I did not cover them. If you would like a mytake that does please request it. This is my take on why blood is definitely not "thicker than water".
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Resources to check out: https://www.dosomething.org/us/facts/11-facts-about-child-abuse
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