Hi guys and girls. I hope you guys are all having a fantastic day. I will be covering the steps to effectively rid yourself of cognitive distortions in 10 steps. If you do not know what a cognitive distortion is or if it applies to you please review
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1. Identify The Distortion
Only once you have successfully categorized your distortion can you begin to rid yourself of it. You take your power back when you name the distortion as soon as the thought crosses your mind. If you need to write it down to remember it better I would recommend you do this. Thought records are a cognitive tool to better organize and track your distortions. Check out the sample below
2. Check The Facts
You have named the distortion and now you need to check it's validity. To determine the validity of a distortion you will need to take it to court. Yes I said it, you will need to take it to court, before a judge, and ask if your distortion is the absolute truth beyond reasonable doubt. Which it will 99.9% never an absolute truth.
Self compassion is a very necessary next step. Give yourself some CREDIT. After you check the facts you need to be gentle with self. It is okay to have distorted thinking. It happens to everyone but you are trying to change it so give yourself some credit. *Air High Fives
4. Try Thinking In The Gray
It's time to get to the gray. I mentioned this on my previous myTake in regards to black and white thinking. Being in the grey is like being in between white and black. You can logically acknowledge both sides to a given situation and still manage to form your own opinion. Being in the grey will help you see the bright side more often than the negative side.
5. Ask Questions (survey method)
Ask yourself questions about the distortion. Why do you think this thought came up? Then ask a friend or relative about the distorted thought. Ask multiple people if necessary. This will give you time to operate in the logical brain and process your feelings. Receiving multiple feedback can help to validate or invalidate a distortion.
6. Stop Name Calling And Labeling
If you discovered that you have been experiencing some distorted thoughts do not beat yourself up over it. This will only create more distortions. You are not flawed, broken, or unloveable because you have distorted thinking.
7. Reach Out And Ask For Support
Speak up!!! Do not allow your thoughts to ruin your life and no one around you knows you are suffering. It is critical to reach out to an actual source of support. Some people will attempt to gain support in very maladaptive ways. That's reaching out to an ex, frenemy, bully, etc. Go to people who give great, PRACTICAL advice.
Affirmations are positive statements that help you challenge your distorted thinking and maladaptive behaviors. For example, I am worthy, I am beautiful at any size, I am strong, I am smart are all affirmations. These are my favorite to use to motivate self love and compassion. What's one affirmation you can say that you don't believe but you wish you did? Leave it in the comments
Gratitudes are statements that demonstrate appreciation for a person, place, or thing. For example, I am grateful that I got paid, I am grateful for my significant other, and I am grateful for my meals are all gratitudes. Start of with one a day.
Lastly, forgive yourself for having these thoughts. It happens to everyone at some point. What's most important is that you are reading this and looking to change your ways or to help others to change their ways. The end.
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