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One thing about a more secular society is people are more likely to face shame as societal punishment vs. actual guilt.

Shame is an external force. Sometimes it is well justified for people who really do wrong. Other times the “shame” is socially constructed and evil on its own. The Maoist struggle sessions are a great example of this. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Struggle_session

Guilt is internal. It’s actually a much more powerful psychological motivator to make right or wrong decisions. Upbringing, communities and religious influences can directly impact guilt.

But some people are sociopaths/psychopaths and don’t feel any guilt. Hence they only worry about their reputation being harmed vs. whether or not they actually harmed someone.

Anyway I’m noticing this bizarre trend in modern society where we have become more “tolerant” of certain deviations but far less forgiving others. Less forgiveness too. Ironically I think this is driving some people to actually get worse on actions that harm others and themselves.

I have a close friend and confidante in a recovery program who is an awesome young man. He’s actually my sponsor.

He leans progressive and I’m a moderate conservative. We have some differences on opinions with politics. But both of us know some subjects are just off limits. But we respect each other very much otherwise.

But I notice women more than men seem to make very quick and easy judgments about people when they don’t agree with their politics. The only time they give men a (semi) pass is if they find the man physically attractive. But even then it’s only a semi buffer.

To be fair men can be like this too. I’ve seen time and time again where guys seemingly “agree” with a woman’s political POV only if they want to sleep with her. I find that to be absolutely beyond pathetic simp bs.

There was a time many years ago when politically opinionated women actually liked it when guys disagreed with them (because it showed the guy had a backbone). But those times are long past ever since Trump first got elected in 2016. So I usually change the subject/don’t respond in those scenarios. If she keeps going off on it then I won’t associate with her anymore. But I will never change my core beliefs just to impress a woman.

But I find that men I disagree politically are easier to get along with in the real world (definitely not on GAG) then women are. Just as long as we have common ground on something else.