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So child is nine years old. he's a good kid however if you ask him to do something and it is not what he wants to do or when he wants to do it he will refuse and fight it until he gets what he wants. We have tried try to compromise with him make this deal and that deal and what not at times. He loves his screen time, that all he wants most of the time. Well today he was refusing to get ready for school. After 45 minutes of trying to get him ready, I stated for every minute he refuses to do as he was told he would lose 10 mins of screen time. My boyfriend said that the 1 to 10 is unreasonable because 1min is no where close to equaling 10mins. The kid has 5 1/2 -6 hours once he gets off of school and home. Normally only has reading or 1 page homework to do after school. If he really wanted he could have gotten up and ready like he was told and only lose 10 mins from his night. instead sat there for 21 minutes which ads up to 3 hours and 30 minutes. Me doing this caused a fight between his father and I. Once he was ready I wrote out a statement that he lost 3 hours and 10 mins of screen time and can work on earning some of it back by not refusing to do his homework/ reading once he is home from school. The kid told me he understood what I was saying and we both signed the slip to make it a deal. Is what I did unreasonable?

We have a common friend and often see each other at his place at parties etc. He generally is nice to me, smiles, comes to me to talk to me and asks questions about me, gives me long gazes with smiles, once he even said in front of everyone that “he really loved me” because I always smile, etc. I like him and since I thought I was getting very positive signs, I asked him to go out for a drink just the two of us. He always said that he thought it was a cool idea, however every time I proposed him a day and time he said he was busy (it’s been a few months now…). I thought it meant he didn’t want to, but than when we see each other he goes like “shall we try to go for a drink the next week?”. But the next week, he doesn’t propose a date or if I do, he says he’s already busy…