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Saw this in a [pretty stupid] conversation between two male friends. They're in their 30s but act like they're in their 20s. One was about to text the girl he has been seeing, ask her out again. His friend stopped him to give him advice on what to say, not say. It inspired this question.

The scenario is between a guy and a girl (but you can do same sex couple if you want. But this is about gender roles and preferences.) They are not strangers. They know each other, but not that well. They have just started casually dating. They both like each other.

But... the guy is reluctant [will not] commit. He's anticipating her wanting this. He's trying to play it cool. But he wants to keep dating her, having sex with her, have her in his life. "She's cool, and she's chill, and she's level-headed. But I don't want to fast-track anything." So his friend says to him, "Just tell her, 'Look, maybe I'll get there one day, but I don't want to hold you back from living your life.'" Typical commitmentphobe player b. s. But anyway, thought I'd make a question out of it.

What I'm getting at here is if there's a majority preference toward: politeness, or assertiveness, or something else. And do guys and girls have a different, or the same, idea about this. And, girls, does the assertiveness turn you on/do you like it, or does it turn you off?

It'd be for some snacks/appetizers as well, not just drinks, but for simplicity sake I didn't write that in each multiple choice because it would be too many words. This isn't a formal or fancy dinner date, but there will be food, so don't focus on that. And for those who don't drink alcohol, you can sub in any other beverage. It's not important. But it is a date, and there is sexual tension between them.

Probably we all heard of one-child policy in China that was stopped at 2016. Personally, I recall hearing about it as child and suprised that people complied _because it really does unpleasant being told what to do for one's natural right. Having not known much as little girl I just felt chills over some having to enter jail for having a child.

Now, as grownup, I want to spat at Chinese government for controlling women's wombs.

They blamed decreasing birth rate back in the late 40s in the last century on women's education.

An unknown person on Weibo said infamously "So, no more foot-binding but brain-binding now?" The dude hit the bullseye! Why blame it on women?

Chinese government restricted reproductive rights by one-child policy, forced contraception, abortion and ligation particularly in the 80s and 90s.

Forced sizing of possessions for resisting the one-child policy was just plain tyranny.

China is a very toxic environment to grow up in, men are either giant babies or shivering quails (some exception are for the lucky ones) and women don't gets to shine fully with the restrictions.

Patriotism is admirable but loving your country when it only abused them is clearly manipulation higher-ups pulled or Chinese cultural teaching having to be separated from modern education.

So Chinese people, specifically women deserves better than a country that's fast to blame and exploit them.

As much as of a great power and production China holds, the leaders has to be splashed with lava over their heartless and inconsiderate ways.

I was scared that internet and Weibo is being tracked, are citizens pets? Clearly China had never gone out of the almighty emperor's period.

Sorry for anyone of Chinese origin, but how can you keep loving your country in such conditions?

I do choose immigration, when I reach, without a second thought with such a crazy government 🤢

So this question is mainly to girls but I do be happy to get answers from guys too.

First, I'm 17 years old (even though my profile is showing its 37 because of my sis messing around when I was making my email) and has never been on a relationship.

I used to have a nextdoor neighbor boy younger than me as child and we were such good friends that we'd cry when one isn't home, he moved away shorty after his dad died of cancer, after I finished my first year of elementary school and I felt empty (still dreaming of him occasionally, I don't know if he still remembers me and afraid to meet him again)

I had no younger cousins as my dad is the youngest

When my mom joked about wanting a third child I took it seriously and excitedly told her it has to be a boy! But she never got pregnant out of consideration of our financial situation as mid-class family.

Mom said: "Kids are expensive, grow up and give birth to your own little boy, don't turn to your poor mommy." I still remember the words vividly because of how painfully it hit me!!

Then I set my eyes on my maternal aumt when she got pregnant after getting married late (32-34), the bravest thing I did as kid outside is to poke my classmates to say my aunt is excepting a child and I'm going to be an older sister. When my younger brother turned into a younger sister, not even my favorite milk coffee got my mood better, but I did squeeze a smile to aunt and tried hugging the newborn when they took her home.

The impact of not getting a younger brother has influenced my ideal type.

My preferences leans to a boy a bit younger than me, an extrovert (I'm an introvert) and takes me for places (I'll gladly pay for his bill), NO DRUGS, smoke or drinks, tattoos are fine but piercings gives me chills just by looking, bold, lean-bodied, don't care for only his enjoyment and pull me in his activities, listens when I turn on my chatty mood just as I do for him, caress my hair, see more than one side of me and a bit shorter than me