I do a lot of the cooking in our relationship - and the cleaning! I clean things he never even thinks to like the bathroom (deep clean), the dishwasher, the washing machine, the oven … and he does his share of the hoovering and dishes. Except I also do those things too. My boyfriend is trying, I get it. It’s hard to keep up with someone who likes things to be ‘Monica clean’. And most of the time I’m chill with him because I know he does do some of the chores (albeit the basic ones). But I just can’t shake this feeling of resentment every time he leaves the dinner dishes until morning after I have cooked a nice meal from scratch. I have told him countless times that I hate waking up to a kitchen messy with last nights dishes, and I love a clean kitchen in the morning. Yet at nighttime something happens to him after he’s eaten that makes him too tired to lift a dish to clean it. I find it really irritating because he KNOWS I HATE leaving dishes overnight. The reason being is that before he has said he’ll do them in the morning. Then he gets busy with work (work from home life) and doesn’t get time to do them. I should point out that he works in the living room and I tend to work in the kitchen. So I can’t just work in the kitchen when there is sh*t everywhere. So who ends up cleaning the dishes? ME! This doesn’t happen every time but it does occasionally. So every time he leaves and the dishes and says he’ll do them in the morning I worry that he won’t. And then to save myself the worry and stress from wondering if he’ll actually get them done and then the eventual disappointment that they’re still there when I go in the kitchen to work in the morning, I end up doing them at the end of the night when he’s f*cked off to bed. What can I do? We’ve had arguments about the dishes so many times before and he STILL does this. It makes me feel really unattracted to him because it just seems plain lazy, a trait I hate.
Why can’t my boyfriend just do the dishes after dinner when I’ve cooked?
