I wouldn’t say it’s normal for most couples living together. It depends on his career and if she is slacking off big time in other aspects of the relationship/household duties. Most share the duties, assign each other to some, or switch off daily/weekly. Most couples/partners do not get angry at little things like that. Some might, if the partner is just lazy, but don’t stay with someone like that if you do put in effort.
If he’s working 8-12+ hours of manual work, is tired and doesn’t have the energy, and I’m home all day… I can totally understand wanting a meal for when you get home. I also would understand getting upset if the house isn’t clean or laundry isn’t done either. BUT, that all depends… Is none of it getting done and he’s getting mad because you did nothing? Or is all of it done but food isn’t made, and he’s getting mad about that?
Just going to school definitely gives you a lot of free time, depending on what your major is, or what you’re doing in school… So, there’s time to cook, clean, and do household duties while the boyfriend is at work, and I assume paying all the bills? It’s like being a traditional stay at home wife. You finish your personal duties, and you do household chores… That’s your part in the marriage.
Also, if he is just straight up lazy and doesn’t even bother cleaning the house or his mess when he has the time, or he doesn’t even bother trying to do any household duties at all.. It’s not normal and he’s just lazy. Not something I’d wanna marry or live with.
Personally, if I lived with my boyfriend and I only went to college, no work, no kids, and had that much free time for the most part… I would expect myself to do laundry, clean, and cook. I’m not the one paying the bills, so I have to do my part one way or another. That is, doing household duties.
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I wouldn't think that's normal. My husband and I both work but we also both have our designated household chores but help each other, too.
For example, I usually make dinner but he's usually home before me and will get whatever the planned dinner is started - if possible.
I'll wash the pots/pans and He'll load the dishwasher and since I go to bed earlier he'll start the dishwasher after his late night snacking. Since I get up earlier, I unload the dishwasher.
He'll start the laundry and I'll load the dryer and then fold clothes.
In the summer he has more outside things to do, so I take care of the inside. During the winter He'll pitch in more. One thing he never does is make the bed! I'm gone for work before he's up and he never makes the bed. When I get home it's the first thing I do! I can't stand going to bed in a rumpled bed. I never say anything to him, tho. It's just easier for me to do it then make issue of it.
Everyone's normal is different but I wouldn't think what you described is a good sign.🙂
Is it "normal" to have toxic relationship? Hmm if by normal u mean whats common out there in society then yeah, but i rather be single than in toxic relationship, it starts with HER. Why does she do this to herself, lack of selfrespect? Lack of ability to be alone? It can be many reasons why she choses to suffer like that
It is time for her to move on, she deserves to be treated better.
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Depends on what type of work he does. It's normal for very tired unrested people to get angry.
No, that's stupid and controlling.
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