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Hi!

We had our first date about three weeks ago. First date did go almost fully by the book "chemistry", although we didn't kiss. After the date she gladly wants to go out again, but as friends, BUT she admit she's open for more. So I guess she use "friend" as take things slow, but I'm not quite sure.

But I get mixed signals.

• She never initiates contact, even mostly a week of radiosilence. - Is this uninterested behavior or Hard to get?
• Always replies, and are engaging In her replies. Her replies goes from, in midday some hours later, coz of work. But in evening from 5min to within 1hour.
• She have recently stepped out (5months ago) from a 9 year relationship. - I guess this is why she put me "temporarily" as friends.
• She's vague about making plans. But always reschedule them if something "more important" comes up.

Is she playing mindgames or just not interested?

A girl I know in my friend group have been flirtous with me for a longer period. She has a boyfriend, but he rarely joins our parties etc. And on these parties she seems to flirt with me. Examples are her talking to me more than others, offering me a zip of her drink several times but not others, kissing me on the cheek (one time even on the neck during a hug), and when when I left a party (first one) she left not long after. Hugs me more than others etc. Never behave like this when her boyfriend is around..

What is happening? Is she into me?

I have had at least 75 first dates as a result of online dating, and a few were horrible (pictures not current, lied about age, etc.) Most of them weren't that awful, but we just weren't a good match. When I got some experience with rejecting a lady, I eventually decided that the best thing to do was to walk the lady back to her car, no good night kiss, no hug, tell her that I enjoyed meeting her, she seems like a nice lady, but I don't think we're a good match and I wished her good luck with her search. That stopped any expectations from developing and avoided the appearance of misleading her in any way. Maybe that isn't how she wanted to hear that message, but I thought it was better than taking the easy way out by texting or simply not calling her again.

If you were the lady on one of those first dates, how and when would you want that message conveyed to you? If you were the guy, how do you think that message should be delivered?

(Yes, I know that it isn't entirely up to me to decide whether to have a second date; a woman can reject me after the first date, and I have had that experience. I'm just asking about this from a guy's perspective. If you want to ask about how a girl should reject a guy, you can post your own question.)