when we first met in my house, nothing happened, when he saw me the second time, we made out, few other things happened but we didn't sleep together, the next time we almost slept together... and then we went our, just the two of us for bowling/arcade and a few drinks... he got abit strange with me a while after, and said he doesn't want things getting complicated as he values me too much as a friend, and he didn't want to use me for sex... then i didn't see him for months, until a week or so ago, then he was completely sober, and asked me to stay at his house, and he picked me up, went to his house, ordered food, watched a movie, just cuddled for hours, no touching, kissing or anything like that.. and i said i have to go home ( im 28 and have a 4 year old who was being watched by my mum' he's 31), i said no i have to go home for my son and i said you can't kidnap me, and he said ' i already have' then i came home, and he wanted to see me the next day, and i said oh, my friends coming but if you asked before i would have said okay... and then he said nah il leave you to it... so i said im sure il see you soon... and he said ' i love the confidence' but then he came to mine the next morning, and i said yeah we have a few hours before i get my son from nursery, an he said nah im staying the night, and then was saying he would come and live with me and asking if i could see myself living with him... and then we were playing around, he threw me in my pool, twice, we had a cushion fight, we did some play fighting, some tickling... few kisses and a make out session but then said i dont want you over liking me, and he said i said no to sex because i have feelings for him and he just went cold with me? But we face time and call eachother almost daily ๐คทโโ๏ธAnd he said sleeping together wouldn't ruin the friendship for him.. and he said we have a really good connection
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How is this friends with benefits when there are benefits? You see what I mean? Either you are mislabeling what you are or not understanding what friends with benefits means. If you are just looking for sex, this doesn't seem to be your guy. He clearly isn't interested in it so I would say move on and find someone else if that's all you're looking for. I don't think anything will change with this guy by the way you describe things.
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He said it himself he feels a connection. Feels more forced but he fell for you and wants to be there but more with just you.
Watch to see how he is with your son! Sounds like he wants to date and be exclusive.
Sorry some questions fall through and don't get answered. Which is why I often go on the no opinions page and give an opinion to help.
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Why did you get in an friends with benefits to begin with?
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What do you think?
Who's going to read all that
From your question my guess is sex
You're wasting your time
I'm guessing he wants sex, nothing more.
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