so, I already know I'm gonna get some sort of shit for everything I'm about to say and I'm aware that friends with benefits can be seen as good/bad relationship to be in, but I really do just wanna rant this all out there and get some SIMPLE HONEST advice so I can determine what I'm doing in this situation and wether it is a good idea to pursue anything or to just leave it alone altogether.
Okay, so I met this guy in one of my college classes. I'm about to turn 20 and he's 26. We both had a mutual attraction for one another and after I told him, we started talking, going out, and casually dating from July-Aug until he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes knowing I had a fear of being in relationships. It would be my first after 3 years, same for him. In addition to that, the second something went slightly wrong, I suggested friends with benefits instead which was the first week of September. I'm aware that I'm dumb to think that it would be fine to go into friends with benefits with someone I had feelings for, but at the time I thought that would be much easier. It wasn't. I still really like him, even more now and I know that I want to date him more than anything and I can't help but think it might be the same for him. I'm sure most people know how traditional friends with benefits works, the whole point is no strings and to keep options open. However, I think me and him are severely crossing those boundaries. First of all, the chemistry we have hasn't changed. We can laugh at anything especially when things go wrong in bed, we just crack tf up. We've just always clicked bc of similar personalities. Second, he treats me like we're still dating whenever I see him and I'm just as bad because I recirpocate. I went over to his place recently, brought him food I made and spent 7+ hours with him, after sex. ( continued below)
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