I really dont know what to do, I have very strong feelings for her and can't only be friends, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

hey, me and this woman both early 30's met around 3 month ago through a dating app, i wasn't looking for anything special but than we met.

im so confused about what to do because i was never in such situation.

this woman is from a diferent country than me, i live in Europe and she in north america (but she is going to move to my country next year)

we met on a dating app but we had an instant connection and things developed really fast, we have so much in common and are really interested to know about eachother, i asked her out 1 week after meeting and she did not hesistate to say yes and we planned the first date, everything went better than i expected we spent more than 8 hours together and we where laughing and actively learning about eachother, we both liked it and planned a second date wich went even better and we kissed at the end, we planed a third date wich she ends up canceling last second giving me a valid reason, since she was about to move back home she did not want to lead me on and wants me to be free and she said its better to do these things when se actually lives here, we agreed to be friends and stay in touch but she started to get more distant, i told her my feelings for her and she confirmed we had a connection, we respect eachother a lot and we like being around eachother but its not the right time for something like this at the moment and she did not want to date right now,

when she moved back home we started to talk a bit more and share things about our lives, we share videos and pictures from our daily lives, but im starting to feel really sad knowing she is out there somewhere far away from me, the more i think of her the more i miss her,

i dont know what i should do, she is a big inspiration for me and she supports and cheers me up about my personal projects and she is my motivation, i tried to go no contact but she keeps reaching out and i can't resist, never have been in this spot before, any advice for my situation?

[thenameless22]

This is textbook her not wanting to drop you too hard for your own sake but also doesn't want to pursue a relationship. Especially the "wants me to be free" and "agreed to be friends". If she actually cared for you in any other way, she wouldn't want to be just friends and sure as heck wouldn't want you to "be free".

Best thing you can do is confront her and demand her give you a yes or no. If it's a no (and I'm sure it will be a no), then tell her you don't want to be just friends and, because of that, you two should no longer talk.

Then move on.

[Gent207-2]

If you are not ready for a serious commitment don't let her come over.

[provokeesmokee]

Talk to a professional. If you have healthcare, a doctor could even help recommend you to local resources.

It's easy to say "get over it" or "try NC" again, but that you struggle resisting at all means a more personalised approach would probably be your best bet.

Sometimes just getting your thoughts about it all out and hearing someone else's take can give your new perspective.

[Anonymous]

Dating apps, long distance?

There is so much that is wrong here that I really don't understand what you are confused about.

[Asker]

we like eachother and we suport one another and she will be living here soon, she is not like any other women i met before, she is kind and pure hearted, my confusion is if its worth to wait and work on myself more untill she comes back

[In_Trance]

You lost me at "different country"
Find someone else

[DextroShade]

Long distance relationships are a joke and "let's just be friends" is a rejection. Time to move on, bro.

[boobliker]

tell her how you feel, that's a good starting point shit or love

[Iron_Man]

Keep trying