Ok, let me try to explain. So, there's this man online who I am chatting with. No, he's not a catfish. I already established that so don't worry, there's been proof provided. He says after we have talked long distance for a couple months that he has strong feelings for me. I'm not surprised by this as I do have that way with men. No he's not trying to get my money. I'm considered a very attractive woman and have a nice figure so it's not that hard to believe. We talk really well, he knows a lot about me. He seems like the perfect man for me. I really like him. We have a lot in common. But after he confessed his feelings now he's a little distant towards me. He does own a business in his home, which I've seen pictures of, and he works a lot and he says it's a sacrifice just to talk to me each day but he makes time and he says he's just busy all the time. He started being distant when I asked what would happen with us. He said he could visit eventually but he's all the way from the UK and I'm in the US. Long story short, I really like him, he says he really cares about me. But sometimes he seems like he's not that into the conversation but I'm kind of wondering why does he even want to talk to me? He says really sweet encouraging things to me sometimes and I suspected he had feelings for me. But he did say the other day that the reason he doesn't want to talk to me 24/7 is because when you talk to someone too much all the time you can lose interest and he doesn't want that to happen. I dont know if he was referring to himself losing interest or him trying to keep me from losing interest, I do suspect he knows certain tactics of dating related to attraction to make women like you such as redpill and maybe he uses that on me. He told me he knows about things like that. Is he really interested as he assures me thoroughly that he is? It's sad we can't meet in person. He did say he was depressed right now, maybe he's sad about this? What does this mean?
So I will be honest I will did not read it all. You said long distance relationship... simple fact these relationship very rarely work out or last. Because yes, it is very easy for person to string someone a long. See since they don't really have to deal with you in person on a daily bases, then they get some type of emotional fulfillment out of it, without having to actually participate in real relationship. So it fun, and your imagination can run with it, and its easy to get swept away by the believe that some one out there and you're Mr. Right is on the other end of the line.
The reality is that there is no way for this relationship to progress to the next level. You're in the US and he is in UK. You haven't met in person, you have never really dated this guy. Yes on line is a way of dating, but honestly you don't really know a lot about this person and you only know the things that he wants you to know or has shared.
Things like this are fun and people get swept away by it, but in the end it runs it course. You're seriously only in love with the idea and the imagination this guys inspires within you. But it is not real, and what's the next step for this relationship? You visit each other a few times, and maybe some how some way one of you move to the US or UK to be together and get married happily ever after?
I do not think this is how 99% of these things end. For me I only looked for women with in 50 mile radius of my me. If I could not meet them in person within the first week or two at most I moved on. Because I want more than a internet pen pal. I want the physical touch and feel of a real relationship.
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See if he’ll visit. If he can’t visit relatively soon, you should move on.
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