So i really dont like the structure of my family, actually my family is big but because my dad doesn't get along with his siblings… so we only celebrate everything (like chinese new year) in a small family scale…
I feel very insecure looking at other people with big happy families…. So i used to not think about it…
But right now i have a partner and my partner comes from a big loving family…. I feel very insecure, that i introduce my partner a very small scale family…. Like why would my partner want me? It gives my partner a disadvantage right?
In chinese tradition, on chinese new year people celebrate it happily, the merrier the better… but in my family thats not the case….
There are other people with a more loving and big family, why would my partner stay with me right? This makes me very fragile due to my family situation, like my partner can leave me anytime…. But i dont know how to make my social status stronger with this small family…. I can't expect my family to become a big loving family for my partner, this is what worries me a lot. Like why do i have to suffer from this, its not my fault….
I feel very insecure, every time there is a chinese new year i always suffer from anxiety everytime im close with someone… Because i feel i dont give my partner a big loving family…
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You are overreacting. Size of family has nothing to do with it. Quality of family members does.
Because everyone in social media posted a big loving family. What im my partner feels that being with me is disadvantageous?
People lie and Social Media is the place where that happens most. How about stepping back and considering meeting your family would be of no concern UNLESS you were priority in his life.
It’s you not your family that is his priority