Is It Ever Okay To Sleep With Someone On The First Date?

Question

Say, you've known him a long time and you both had secret crush on each other and then he asked you out and first kiss went well. . .

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

"Is it okay?" can mean several things.

Is it illegal? No.

Is it immoral? That depends on your moral code for yourself, if you have one.

Would you momma or daddy approve? Probably not.

Will it have consequences down the road? Maybe. You didn't tell us whether you have previous sexual experience or he would be your first. That is a factor. You also didn't tell us your goal with this guy: do you hope to evolve into a long term relationship, casual dating, or just a quick sexual romp?

EricSummer · Accepted Answer

It will not be the best conditions for the two people to build up an emotional attachment. If one of them or both are interested in such an attachment they should avoid sex on the first date.

The first kiss and first sex should not be on the same occasion, that's the main thing.

Of course, if they just want casual sex, the first date is as good as any other and there's no need to wait.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

Yeah, if both are into it and consenting, and you use protection.

There's no real rule other than consent.

Protection I think is smart because you don't want to get knocked up, and you don't know if he is clean (or he if you are) - if you don't wanna do an STI check beforehand, it's the easiest way to stay safe.

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

To each it’s own, I prefer not sleeping with someone on the first date. Personally I think someone doesn’t cherish another person enough on the first date which can lead to bad intentions. Some people that are in relationships have hooked up on the first date though

Pinay_ako · Answer

I don’t sleep on first dates. That’s up to you

coachTanthony · Answer

It's never okay. Don't do it.

Avicenna · Answer

Under those circumstances, it’s perfectly fine

ohsheeT · Answer

Just remember one thing you're in charge of your own body you can do anything you want to do but protect yourself if you don't you're not going to have any fun you're going to be thinking about it all the time it's easy to get pregnant doing unprotected sex you both have to be smart that would just ruin everything wouldn't it so be safe have fun learn something but don't get pregnant

RingOfFire · Answer

Hold off. Relationships are much better when you build them up to that point instead of going for it at the first opportunity (and so is the sex). You need to build the foundation first to make it last. Otherwise it seems hollow and meaningless.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

That's to be decided then. I'm not really for it, but that doesn't mean that it's just a fuck and dump. Anyway the best first date is a walk and talk. No money or weird dinner/movie complicated shit. Just a nice stroll getting to know each other a little better.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Absofuckinglutely! On a first date if two people are hot for each other it’s ok to explore your love making skills in the bedroom just as long as it’s consensual.

Condoms prevent minivans, remember that.

nastyb · Answer

just be careful about that. i know some guys who have sex on first dates after they know there is no connection so they can just sleep with you and never see you again. they call it "getting away with it"

SigmaNiggeh · Answer

I don't know. I don't understand women. On one end women are happy to have guys deepstroking their guts. But on the other end they're easily creeped out. I'd rather not date women & if i'm lonely or desperate I find it safer to buy hookers than to search for a girlfriend. Been single for over 5 years.

mandyfire98 · Answer

Yes as long as you're being safe and want to then have fun.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

It’s not okay for me, but I don’t judge anyone. If it feels right for them, they can enjoy each other on a first date.

richardcory · Answer

Sure, if its something both of you want and neither is intoxicated enough that consent is at all in question

comekitty · Answer

I would advise against this ~ but maybe that's just me 🙂 Hope everything works out well for you!

Katebfun · Answer

It's Wise to NOT give the goods away. Even on the 2nd or 3rd date. Get to know someone as a friend first.

Mangospacho · Answer

No it is never okay to fall asleep on the first date…unless you have narcolepsy, then you just can’t help it.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Why not? if both want it, there is nothing wrong, just make sure and use protection.

ShesRad80 · Answer

its all up to how you both are feeling and or connecting, no one else can answer this for you

Anonymous · Answer

Depends. If it's just pump&dump date or I want a boyfriend. A potential boyfriend has to prove he likes me and not my sexual assets, that's why he has to endure many dates without sex.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I mean I guess if you knew eachother long before, but for me personally, its still a no

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Sure... not really a first date in a traditional sense really...

SnowedIn · Answer

Yes. If you both feel ready and are consenting and safe, totally yes.

Hazelxoxx · Answer

Nooooo, if you do they will think that you are cheap and easy to get and you can accept all guys to do that with you.

Nikki1989 · Answer

When it feels right, it is OK.

exitseven · Answer

If both people think it is okay than why not?

TacosRAwesome · Answer

You can do what you want. Just be aware that there are consequences for your actions.

Pohjolan · Answer

If you want to. Playing some role that is not yourself isn't exactly advisable if you are not a spy.

Bobbysworld · Answer

Depends on the chemistry, the level of horniness lol and if both people want it and are safe sure

Pudsmucker · Answer

I think it's wise to get to know somebody really well before you have sex someone.

zagor · Answer

Well I have with someone I met that morning. But whatever works for you.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I've never slept with a woman on the first date before.

Sasha0426 · Answer

I mean, that’s up to you two. If that’s what you both decided on, go for it.

HaveNoName · Answer

Isn't that what is called a "hookup" and not a "date" ?

Anonymous · Answer

I've been sleeping with Master whenever he orders me to for weeks and he has never taken me on a date.

NYlatefun · Answer

Yes, absolutely. Context makes a big difference.

najekim · Answer

If the chemistry is there and both want to, have fun!

Jltakk · Answer

Eh, you already know the guy at this point, sure I guess.

Anonymous · Answer

It's OK. But not advisable if you want to keep them.

Ascelin · Answer

if you both consent and you're both 100% happy to then it's game on

Anonymous · Answer

It’s rude to fall asleep during sex on the first date.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, if you're both sluts and want to risk getting std''s! Go for it !!

Anonymous · Answer

Of course it's okay, It's just Slutty Women have ruined it for other Women.

Vikkrram · Answer

Secret crush can you please explain a bit ma'am?

Paige90 · Answer

Of course it is!

Kabluie · Answer

Always okay, and plus it wasn't blind.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

I mean do your thing. Would I do it? No.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course it is, if you want to.

Wise4myage · Answer

Sure, if both people agree to it.

SH_19 · Answer

Depends on your bonding ❤️

Preprefrontalis · Answer

Noo waaay ahahah

Twalli · Answer

sleep, yes. Fuck, I wouldn't.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course. Why not?

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Yes, if you get chance

Anonymous · Answer

If you get stuck in a blizzard.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Yes ofcourse

Iron_Man · Answer

No never

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No. It's not. FFS.

mommymommymommy · Answer

No, probably not

riverrat3 · Answer

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