Is It Ever Okay To Sleep With Someone On The First Date?

[Anonymous]

Say, you've known him a long time and you both had secret crush on each other and then he asked you out and first kiss went well. . .

[OlderAndWiser]

"Is it okay?" can mean several things.

Is it illegal? No.

Is it immoral? That depends on your moral code for yourself, if you have one.

Would you momma or daddy approve? Probably not.

Will it have consequences down the road? Maybe. You didn't tell us whether you have previous sexual experience or he would be your first. That is a factor. You also didn't tell us your goal with this guy: do you hope to evolve into a long term relationship, casual dating, or just a quick sexual romp?

[OlderAndWiser]

It's okay if you absolutely know, beyond all doubt, that you are going to marry the guy.

[EricSummer]

It will not be the best conditions for the two people to build up an emotional attachment. If one of them or both are interested in such an attachment they should avoid sex on the first date.

The first kiss and first sex should not be on the same occasion, that's the main thing.

Of course, if they just want casual sex, the first date is as good as any other and there's no need to wait.

[provokeesmokee]

Yeah, if both are into it and consenting, and you use protection.

There's no real rule other than consent.

Protection I think is smart because you don't want to get knocked up, and you don't know if he is clean (or he if you are) - if you don't wanna do an STI check beforehand, it's the easiest way to stay safe.

[kylee2437]

To each it’s own, I prefer not sleeping with someone on the first date. Personally I think someone doesn’t cherish another person enough on the first date which can lead to bad intentions. Some people that are in relationships have hooked up on the first date though

[Pinay_ako]

I don’t sleep on first dates. That’s up to you

[coachTanthony]

It's never okay. Don't do it.

[Avicenna]

Under those circumstances, it’s perfectly fine

[ohsheeT]

Just remember one thing you're in charge of your own body you can do anything you want to do but protect yourself if you don't you're not going to have any fun you're going to be thinking about it all the time it's easy to get pregnant doing unprotected sex you both have to be smart that would just ruin everything wouldn't it so be safe have fun learn something but don't get pregnant

[RingOfFire]

Hold off. Relationships are much better when you build them up to that point instead of going for it at the first opportunity (and so is the sex). You need to build the foundation first to make it last. Otherwise it seems hollow and meaningless.

[CuriousMufuxka]

That's to be decided then. I'm not really for it, but that doesn't mean that it's just a fuck and dump. Anyway the best first date is a walk and talk. No money or weird dinner/movie complicated shit. Just a nice stroll getting to know each other a little better.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Absofuckinglutely! On a first date if two people are hot for each other it’s ok to explore your love making skills in the bedroom just as long as it’s consensual.

Condoms prevent minivans, remember that.

[nastyb]

just be careful about that. i know some guys who have sex on first dates after they know there is no connection so they can just sleep with you and never see you again. they call it "getting away with it"

[SigmaNiggeh]

I don't know. I don't understand women. On one end women are happy to have guys deepstroking their guts. But on the other end they're easily creeped out. I'd rather not date women & if i'm lonely or desperate I find it safer to buy hookers than to search for a girlfriend. Been single for over 5 years.

[mandyfire98]

Yes as long as you're being safe and want to then have fun.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

It’s not okay for me, but I don’t judge anyone. If it feels right for them, they can enjoy each other on a first date.

[richardcory]

Sure, if its something both of you want and neither is intoxicated enough that consent is at all in question

[comekitty]

I would advise against this ~ but maybe that's just me 🙂 Hope everything works out well for you!

[Katebfun]

It's Wise to NOT give the goods away. Even on the 2nd or 3rd date. Get to know someone as a friend first.

[Mangospacho]

No it is never okay to fall asleep on the first date…unless you have narcolepsy, then you just can’t help it.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Why not? if both want it, there is nothing wrong, just make sure and use protection.

[ShesRad80]

its all up to how you both are feeling and or connecting, no one else can answer this for you

[Anonymous]

Depends. If it's just pump&dump date or I want a boyfriend. A potential boyfriend has to prove he likes me and not my sexual assets, that's why he has to endure many dates without sex.

[DizzyDesii]

I mean I guess if you knew eachother long before, but for me personally, its still a no

[BoopBoopBeep]

Sure... not really a first date in a traditional sense really...