Is it bad to sleep with him on the first date?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to this guy everyday for a month. We connected on tinder. We get along nicely. We don’t have particularly deep conversations but there was chemistry in person and I slept with him on the first date. We have another date planned but I’m wondering does it matter? Would it kill the potential for a long term relationship? What should I look out for? What would be a red flag. Also we are both about to be 40 and probably just over the games.

[HawkPerception]

I personally don't look down on women if they put out on the first date. It shows they're comfortable with me enough to be physically intimate, and it also shows that we have a level of compatibility to let it get to that point (at least that's how it would be in my scenario, as my conversations actually have depth and I try to understand that person's views, interests, sense of humor, whether our goals and destinations in life align, sexual compatibilty, etc.).

Now the truth is, not all men think this way. Many think of you as easy and don't really try to understand you as a person. They just think "Oh she looks hot. I'd fuck her." Some even say "Well, she's not that attractive, but I'd still fuck her." And after they get in your pants, they leave and move on to the next target. Pump and dump as they say. That's why it's really important to filter and actually create a connection. It creates a solid foundation for the relationship to foster.

[Twalli]

Sleeping with someone early on does not kill the relationship, the reason people don't do it is because sex becomes part of the foundation of the relationship, which means if you have sex infrequently, the relationship is significantly weaker.

[PeachyPie93]

A guy from Tinder probably makes your chances at a long term relationship significantly less.. Then add on to the fact you slept with the guy on the first date.. It doesn't look good but you never know, if he see's something in you it's possible something can grow. But if he is the type that says "I'm just not really ready for a relationship rn because of XYZ" than you are shit out of luck and he is just gonna keep you as a booty call on his roster.

[slatyb]

If he would reject you for that, you don't want him. He would be judging you constantly.

[RHK36]

Probably the worst thing you can do unless you're completely on the same page

[jahaims]

Yeah, it means you have no self respect and get validation from unhealthy sources

[TheLovelyWoman]

No. I have slept with men on the first date.

[MasterKS]

No, if both feels comfortable.

[Tom567456]

Nope