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I have been working at my current company for almost 2 and a half years now. I've recently developed a crush on a colleague, but we've always had a flirty relationship. However, due to our situations, it would be almost impossible to have a relationship together. He's always been lovely to me and the flirting included things like him doing silly things to get my attention, staring at me, prolonged/strong eye contact, going out of his way to help me, seeming jealous about other men, organising the gifts/cards for my 30th birthday etc etc. I've always felt fairly confident that he felt the same way.

HOWEVER, a few weekends ago, we met up on a night out. I had too much to drink and I ended up telling him that I really liked him as more than a friend. I asked him if he liked me back, to which he said "you're a lovely person". I kept asking him, being persistent with it - he kept repeating “you’re a lovely person” and I eventually said "just answer the question", to which he replied "yes, I do but we can't be together etc". I think we had a few quick kisses on the lips, not a proper kiss, but a peck.

The day after, I apologised to him for potentially putting him in an awkward position, to which he said "don't worry about it".

The next week at work, he apparently wasn't aware of what happened. I told him that I had kissed him and he looked shocked, saying "that's not ideal, I wouldn't have kissed you properly". For the rest of the week, he barely spoke to me and was hot and cold in his behaviour towards me.

He has gotten better but he doesn't flirt with me like he used to before all this happened. He has shown being jealous because he overheard me saying I was going on a date. I saw him look in my direction and when I told him to have a nice weekend, he abruptly said “bye”

Was there any truth in him telling me that he likes me? Does he still like me? If so, why is he being weird?

29F & I’ve known a few people throughout my life that just hate doing things alone. Whether it’d be those people that jump from one relationship to the next or those people that just need some kind of company when it comes to doing everyday things (getting lunch, going shopping etc). I’m not sure if I just feel this frustration for those kinds of people because I wonder how they’re capable of just jumping into new relationships so easily, some kind of jealousy? At the same time, I wouldn’t feel happy with myself if I just disliked my own company that much & constantly needed someone there to fill that void, whether it’s romantic or platonic company. I’m very much a loner & have been single for pretty much my whole life, I feel like I’m at the point where I’m so used to it that a man will REALLY need to knock off my socks in order for me to consider dating him. In other words, I’ve done everything on my own including living alone etc, will adding a man to my life be that beneficial? This isn’t meant to sound feminist, I feel like I also question these kinds of codependent people because my mom may be one of them, yes she’s independent but even she’s admitted that she hates doing things alone. Thoughts? And when I say they’re *weak*, I’m talking specifically about this aspect of their life & not overall.