We had a history where he got emotionally dependent on me to the point that he avoided me because he said he was becoming too dependent on me for his issues. I once also confessed my feelings to him but he rejected me saying he is prioritizing his parents etc. That was last year.
Lately, he's now been consistent in asking me how i am every week. Our conversations take an hour talking about our lives but he keeps asking me questions wanting to know about my health, how's my work etc. The emotional intimacy is really great but I can't help but wonder and fear I'll be depending on him again or vice versa. I also do not like to be in a relationship as of the moment but I cannot help but give him the emotional intimacy that he wants which is leaving me confuse after every "talk"
Unlike other normal friendships, we are intimate emotionally. We talk about what we plan in the future, our problems, our fears, things happening in our lives, our work and this is every week so I'm really worried about this dynamic.
I've tried deactivating my social media accounts but when i reactivate, he messages on the same day saying he was trying to message me but I deactivated
Why do you think he is still doing this when he already rejected me in the past? Shouldn't he scale down a bit on his interactions with me? Instead i feel it's going deeper and deeper again
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Yo that sounds like a real complicated situation you got goin on with this dude. On one hand it's good you guys can connect on a deep emotional level and be supportive of each other. But it also sounds like there's still some unresolved feelings there messing with both your heads.
A couple things stand out to me - first, him getting so dependent before that he had to avoid you is a red flag. That ain't healthy. And he rejecting your confession even though he likes the intimacy y'all have is confusing as hell too.
Second, him still hitting you up this regularly after saying he needs distance is kinda sketch. Like what's his end goal really? He ain't tryna date but wants all the emotional perks of a relationship. That ain't fair to you either.
Personally sis I think you need to take a step back from this guy for real. He keeps you on the hook without committing, so you end up stuck in limbo still wanting him. Tell him if he's not down to try something real then the emotional calls gotta stop while you're trying to focus on yourself too.
You deserve to not be stressed wondering if he likes you or not. Dude needs to make up his mind so you can move on with your life too. Set some boundaries and stick to them - hope it helps bring you both some clarity! You got this.
He may have changed his mind.