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I'm a 23F, about to be 24, still in college. Though I've been asked out before, not by the right guys, I'd never had a first date. I never had a boyfriend. I have a specific type/look in men that I'm attracted to. But the guys I would seem interested in are either not interested in me or they are not aware of my interest in them. I'm quite quirky in appearance, personality. But I'm very smart, curious, open minded and observant (If you're curious as to why I look like, you can go to this link If I'm pretty like people tell me, how come guys don't ask me out?

I'm also usually forward when speaking with others. After a guy who I fell for didn't return his feelings, I shut out and stopped approaching guys and showing interest, in fear of rejection and just encountering the obvious. It took me months to get over him.

A lot of people in my age bracket are already in relationships, engaged or married. And it seems like they're all pretty much the same in personality, style, common interests and friends. I feel like the odd one out without any experience or proposals. I was raised in the Midwest, but I currently live in the deep south. So that might explain a lot. This not only feels odd to me, but like it's too soon for everyone to be married this young. I want to be in a relationship, but I feel like I'm too weird or quirky for men to handle or to be attracted to. Like I just turn them off right from the start of the conversation or minutes into. So I just keep quiet and too myself, unless someone interesting enough catches my eye. I don't like to waste my time with people who aren't gonna make time for me, benefit me or who I see as fake and toxic. Pretty valid, is it not? I know what I want and what I'm looking for, but I'm open for something different to me.

Could anyone give me any ideas as to why? And if you are or have been through what I'm going through, please give your story. Thank you!

Does he find one of them more attractive than the other and/or does he have a different kind of interest in them for instance one just for friends with benefits and the other as girlfriend or something else?

Im asking because one guy did that to me however he acts very differently around other crushes by trying to impress them, looking good for them when he never did that for me.

His friends know that he had a crush on me and he made me a romantic playlist (he didn’t share it with me but he named it after me and the songs were quite specific). However around other women he is attracted to he dresses up, tries new styles and runs his fingers through his hair. Around me he never did that. Why? I don’t think I’m less pretty than any of them and most people tell me I look way better. Might it be just a coincidence or are these girls in some way better than me? With some of them he never even talked before

So there’s this guy that I’m friends with, and we have been friends for sometime. I used to have a crush on him and I admitted to him that I was attracted to him. He said he didn’t feel the same way and I didn’t feel a ways about it so we just moved on. It took me a minute but I finally got over my attraction.

However, this man makes sexual jokes about us engaging in sexual acts, saying he thinks of me when he uses his sex toys, touches my leg, likes to make fun and a lot more. He flirts with me a lot. I catch him staring at me sometimes too, and when I look up sometimes he’ll look away, sometimes he’ll maintain eye contact. More than what a guy friend would do.

However, anytime I jokingly say he likes me he gets unnecessarily defensive about it. Also, he tends to play some songs (love songs or affectionate songs) when I’m around, he tends to do that when he can’t express himself. And he gets jealous when I talk to other guys (romantically or not). Even if it’s for a short spell, he stares at the man. Or if I talk about having another guy friend he gets fairly defensive about that too. But, he talks to girls a lot and has female friends too.

And the one thing I’ve noticed when interacting with his female friends is that they tend to act weird around me. As if they have some type of animosity towards me, but I don’t hang out with them enough for them to even have animosity so I have no idea. I suspect that he may talk about me to them a lot and they don’t like that, and some of them may even like him but he tends to give me a lot of attention. So I’m trying to figure out, is it possible that he likes me?

Or does it rather mean that he is desperate for affection and just wants to gain experience no matter if he is genuinely attracted or not?