I'm currently dating a much younger guy (I'm 40, he's 26). When we started going out I didn't want anything serious. He was a super hot and super fun younger guy who was actively pursuing me and expressing a lot of attraction towards me. I was super flattered, super superficially attracted to him, thought he was a lot of fun, and I didn't want anything serious. I thought going out with him would be a great chance to have a fun fling, but that things would inevitably fizzle out and we'd eventually move on.
Well, much to my surprise, that hasn't happened. We actually have a pretty significant connection and have pretty strong feelings for each other. I have a ton of fun when I'm around him, but he's also super sweet, caring, and supportive. I just love talking to him, and I want to be around him as much as I can (which is usually when my two teen girls are with their dad, which is about half the time). I know that we have a big age difference, but when I'm around him I just can't feel it. He brightens my day whenever he's around. We've talked about it, and he feels the same way. We both want to move the relationship in a much more serious direction
But at the same time, the more realistic side I can often think I'm being kind of dumb. The age gap is probably a big issue if we try to get in a serious long term relationship. Sure, right now he's super attracted to me, but how long will that last? Will he still find me attractive in 10, 20, 30 years? Moreover, there are a lot of beautiful girls his age who are very attracted to him. I sometimes worry he'll one day lose interest in me for a younger woman. Additionally, while our libido levels are super compatible now, I don't know how that'll change when I reach menopause. (More to read)
I know that he means all of this with all his heart, but there's just that fear inside me that he could change his mind years down the road
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Nobody has a crystal ball to look into the future. You can’t help who you fall in love with and nor should you care. Live each day as it comes and be happy
It can work but it usually not a good relationship. I have a 23 year old friend who is in a long term relationship with a 49 year old and they often argue, and she calls him old names, but they get along generally and have a kid.
Do you know what they do to make the age gap work?
He tries to cater to her from my experience but they like each other a lot. The most important thing is you love each other then you overcome everything
How exactly does he try to cater to her?
He does as she says. If they have a disagreement she usually wins.
Yes. Disgusting.