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I got my Bachelor’s in Psych back in 2018, since then I’ve worked in higher education. Was in academic advising for a little over 2 years & that job felt like a bad fit across the board. Then I was in career services for about 3 months at another school & combined with mgmt/having to talk in public settings made me quit, I then worked in financial aid at another school for a little less than 2 years. While that felt like kind of a better fit based off mgmt’s feedback & a bit more confidence in my job tasks, I was miserable. I just worked in FA again at another school for a little less than a month & decided working in this new school felt a bit off.

29F and I have never felt like such a failure, I have a bit of a savings after selling my condo a little less than 2 years ago & live with family again so there’s that “cushion” but it’s not ideal obviously. I completed a form to schedule a meeting with alumni career services where I got my degree & waiting to hear back, I’m scared to apply for work bc I really don’t know what I want to do with my life. My mom said maybe higher education isn’t a good fit for me b/c of this pattern I’ve had, thinks I should work temp jobs since there’s no commitment & I can pay my way to go back to school. But I don’t want any more student loans since pell is maxed out & again I DON’T KNOW what I want to do.

I’m kind of stumped in the sense that I don’t know what I want to do, I feel like I enjoy the higher ed field but it may not be the best fit as I keep ending up in a position where I’m back to looking for work again regardless if most of the time it’s been voluntary it seems. Advice appreciated, any resources or suggestions you have from experience leave in the comments.

While book-smarts or street-smarts help a person in specific ways, Emotional Intelligence is what we use most in the real world -- it's the mindfulness, awareness and processing ability we have for both our feelings and the feelings of others.

Current research indicates that those with higher levels of EI draw others towards them... They're people who others genuinely want to be around for the long haul -- at work/school/relationships. Their kindness and compassion towards others shine through their EI, as does their ability to own up to their own decisions (instead of blaming them on others) and to treat others with respect and dignity.

Here 's a quick 20-point quiz for you guys and gals -- the most common signs of EI

(+1 for each point you "sort of understand" and +2 for each point you're really good at):

• Being able to know and accept yourself for who you are (with all your quirks and experiences)...
• Being able to accept responsibility for your actions and decisions...
• Being able to accept change as a standard part of life...
• Being able to control emotions rather than raging and lashing out and flying off the handle with verbal/physical outbursts...
• Being able to forgive yourself -- to show yourself some grace -- by leaving past mistakes in the past...
• Being able to talk through problems and challenges with others...
• Being aware of your own strengths -- and being able to admit to them...
• Being aware of your own weaknesses -- and being able to admit to them...
• Being modestly confident and poised -- and keeping your cool in challenging situations...
• Showing empathy and compassion -- putting yourself in another person’s shoes and seeing things from their perspective...

The scoring goes by 5s (see the poll, which keeps answers anonymous). Don't share your score in comments if you don't want to.

(Those with a low score wondering how to raise EI can search Google for free materials that are very helpful.)

I understand they don't like their gfs nagging about wanting kids, being scared of being baby-trapped and feeling pressured into it. Ok let's say we were to play dumb, never baby-trap you and never mention anything about wanting kids, would men naturally want kids too? Would they be capable of bringing up the topic themselves if the woman doesn't even remind them? Do they naturally (free will) want kids or not?

Here is the irony, they don't like being nagged but if some of them were to be suffering infertility (unable to ever impregnant a woman), several wouldn't like that either. One of my good friends is a fertility nurse. Several years ago, one of her patients was a married couple that's been trying to conceive for 3 years. It was discovered (teste 3 times) the guy had no sperm count and he actually left the office in tears.