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A lot of people think a prenup is a sign of distrust. This is a claim very often used by people you CAN NOT trust (due to lack of maturity, unwillingness to compromise, selfishness, etc.)

You see a prenup is NOT a sign of distrust.

It is designed as protection IF something were to happen. Nobody can ever predict the future. As such a prenup is no different than having a fire extinguisher in your house or wearing a seat belt. You don't expect a fire or a car accident but you're protected if happens.

Just as how you don't expect the relationship to fail, but you & others are protected if does.

There's an old saying a leopard never changes it's spots.

So someone who is abusive likely will never change. Someone who uses drugs will likely never change. Someone who doesn't manage mental health issues properly likely never will.

And so forth.

Given this do you feel that it's smart to get a background & other - such as financial / credit (for gambling issues, etc.) - checks on someone you're dating / getting into a relationship.

Particularly as unless you know person - via friends, neighbors or work - you're likely never going to meet the previous people they dated & thus have no reference for their behavior.

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It's very easy - and happens quite often - for abusive individuals to pretend to be "nice" until they lull their victims into a sense of false security.

And by doing checks you can find out that "nice guy (or girl)" may have being beating the shit out of their previous partner BEFORE they are beating the shit out of you.