Do men who used to be fuckboys ever change or am I at a greater risk for later infidelity in a committed relationship with such a man?

[Anonymous]

I am dating this man who treats me like a queen, is loved by my father and wants to settle down with me. However, he has been transparent about his past and he used to be a serial short-term/ casual sex type of guy. Now in his mid-thirties, he has cleaned up his act, is in a financially good situation and super respectful to me and talks about marriage and having children with me. He has displayed no red flags ever but knowing his past, I am fearful that he may be the type to be unfaithful in marriage. Do men with such a past ever change? I also wonder whether he has a Madonna/ whore complex.

[RavVid]

All men tend to divide women into angel and whore categories but you are clearly in the angel category. What do you see as the downside if this is worrying you?

It is a good question re fuckboys. I would not consider a fuckgirl. I don't know that anybody can answer that except for some do and some don't in both sexes. I tend to think that if he has serious goals in life and that if marriage and children are important in that, than he will adopt what is necessary to realize that.

But none of us, can ever know.

[normalice]

Sadly, for most people the only thing that changes them is pain. Even as you provide comfort to him you deny him the opportunity to venture down the path to experiencing the pain of rejection that would forge in him an appreciation for a woman who does not reject him.

[LazerBean]

The chance that that they will change is slim to none. They are never worth the risk.

[Mangospacho]

If he’s opened up to you about his past and has discussed them candidly, he is probably not likely to repeat his past mistakes. It sounds like he has had a change in his attitude about sex and him sticking with you in a long term relationship is a sign he is sincere.

[ProbablyClueless]

People can absolutely change. I think you have a good reason to feel optimistic about this guy.

[whiskeyontherocks]

Likely not going to change
You’re definitely going to worry about it all the time and that’s not going to go well

[Anonymous]

Contrary to sluts (who never learn but they simply get old) playboys settle down.

[dudeinohio]

I'd say most do not change.

[Anonymous]

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