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My guy and I have been together for close to 7 years on and off. We are way past the honeymoon phase but I still like being with him a lot. I am noticing however that he perpetually tries to engage me in fights by criticizing my looks or saying things he knows I will react to and then we will argue and emotions will get high and that seems to turn him on more. Recently, we got into our worst fight and he said he wanted to end things and move on. I got really upset etc at first and tried to make up but he was very mad and didn’t make much effort. When I told him off (I typically am never this harsh) and left — it hasn’t been been a few days and he really wants me, even more than normal. He suddenly likes me how I am and wants to only be with me etc and is very sexually attracted to. It makes no sense. Is this normal? Do you feel more turned on after fighting?

I had a pre op operation and a male doctor had to come in and examine the lymph nodes in my groin area (didn't have to expose that area completely.) I'm mid 20s, he was probably 40 or 40s. The nurse in my pre op sent him a message to come in to carry out the test explaining I was very fit in general for the surgery to him. I assume I'm in good shape as I cycle, run and even do a bit of soccer. He probably knew I was in mid 20s (25-26) also if said my age on the records but maybe he didn't see that. I don't know whether this would be classed as a younger female to him. He came in mega flustered and fumbling on his words and said how the nurse told him I was very fit for surgery and then after dashed out after doing the test. It's possible he could've been attracted to the nurse also but they probably see each other daily so it was quite an extreme reaction if that.

You know when you have a gut feeling? I’ve been on and off the dating apps for years, it’s come to the point where I’m not as interested & I swipe on matches/reply to msgs every few days. I’ve never had a real relationship, I saw someone for a few months maybe 5 years ago & something told me after I saw him that’d I’d be single for a long time. With him it felt like settling & I refuse to ever be with someone that made me feel like that again.

I had to use dating apps bc I’m not very friendly & I don’t get approached in person. I’m told I’m cute/attractive & I will say I have a very low sex drive (haven’t masturbated or had sex in 5 years). I don’t think this is a huge deal considering this isn’t something that will be an issue that early on, a guy can’t just look at my profile/see me in person & know that right off the bat.

I get matches (never been the issue) but it’s always: ghosting, fizzling out, lack of interest (can go both ways), feelings not reciprocated, just not a good match & some guys are just crazy. I just always have a gnawing feeling like guys aren’t attracted to me, I’d get told once in a while that some guy looked at me/found me cute but they never do anything about it. And I don’t either hence why I’m posting this 🤷🏻‍♀️

TLDR: based off the description, is this something that’s unlucky in love?