You know when you have a gut feeling? I’ve been on and off the dating apps for years, it’s come to the point where I’m not as interested & I swipe on matches/reply to msgs every few days. I’ve never had a real relationship, I saw someone for a few months maybe 5 years ago & something told me after I saw him that’d I’d be single for a long time. With him it felt like settling & I refuse to ever be with someone that made me feel like that again.
I had to use dating apps bc I’m not very friendly & I don’t get approached in person. I’m told I’m cute/attractive & I will say I have a very low sex drive (haven’t masturbated or had sex in 5 years). I don’t think this is a huge deal considering this isn’t something that will be an issue that early on, a guy can’t just look at my profile/see me in person & know that right off the bat.
I get matches (never been the issue) but it’s always: ghosting, fizzling out, lack of interest (can go both ways), feelings not reciprocated, just not a good match & some guys are just crazy. I just always have a gnawing feeling like guys aren’t attracted to me, I’d get told once in a while that some guy looked at me/found me cute but they never do anything about it. And I don’t either hence why I’m posting this 🤷🏻♀️
TLDR: based off the description, is this something that’s unlucky in love?
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I don’t think so. Dating and relationships are incredibly difficult. It’s not easy at all. You could swipe on hundreds of people and 1 actually turns into something with real potential.
Think about going to a bar. There are a ton of people there. An even smaller percentage will approach one another. An even smaller percentage of that will have a good conversation and hit it off. An even smaller percentage of that will have a good first date. Etc etc. It’s a funnel, and you have to stay patient with it until you find the right one.
Just stay true to yourself. Keep putting yourself out there. And stay patient with it.
I dont think you're unlucky, I just think you're comfortable with your lifestyle.
You won't get anywhere using dating apps. Try the real world for a change.