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My fiance and I of 8 years have been having a lot of trouble in our relationship. There was a lot of damage done on both ends and honestly I just want to be alone for a while. I just need to be by myself because we got together when I was 17 and ended up having a baby at 19 and I have been living the house wife life ever since. Just recently, a friend of mine kind of made me realize that I lost myself while trying to grow up so quickly. I gave up everything that made me happy and just lived my life in accordance to my fiance and children, I'm not talking about parties and booze either. They are things that I could (and am starting to) incorporate into my families life. Once I realized this I was so much happier, but that happiness also caused me to sort of drift from my partner. I had lived my entire life around him and now that I realized I needed my own identity, he was confused and things started to become very conflicting. I wanted to plan camping trips and go outside all the time, where he refused to help and hated camping. I wanted to become more active and put the kids in a variety of sports, but he didn't see the point. I wanted to pursue a career and he felt I should be working on getting a job that could help us get into a house. (We live in an apartment) Our goals and ideals were conflicting. This happened and that happened. Things were said, feelings were hurt, and we are left at a point where I am so confused as to whether or not we are even good for each other anymore. I want to be alone so I can figure out what I actually feel for him. But I don't want to end our relationship. I don't want to sleep with other men, I just want to be alone. Does taking a break ever work? I don't want him to think I'm just trying to find an easy way to break up.