In case you don't know what a mixed girl tag is, it's basically a bunch of questions people have about mixed people. A lot of people are curious as to what it was like for us growing up and they tend to be really popular videos on YouTube. I thought I could give it a try for gag so I hope you guys enjoy. :)
1. What are you mixed with?
I am Puerto Rican and Jamaican, if you're curious about what that means racially:
Puerto Rican: White, Asian, Native Indian
Jamaican: Indian, Black, Scottish
2. What ethnicity have you been mistaken for?
3. Is your hair curly or straight?
I've got curls!!!!!!
4. Was coming from different backgrounds challenging growing up?
Yes and no. It was very difficult getting acceptance from anyone, it seemed as though the only people who understood me were other mixed people but unfortunately we aren't as common as people like to think.
I've faced a lot of discrimination from people of all sorts. Black, white, Hispanic. It was like I didn't fit in anywhere and people were always wanting to categorize me. My Puerto Rican family would always emphasize that I'm Puerto Rican, my Jamaican family would do the same. But it seemed like both would ignore the other parts of me.
I've seen a lot of minorities complain about the media and how they aren't represented but I think it's worse for mixed people. Being mixed has seem to become synonymous with being black and white. No one thinks about other possible mixtures especially the ones who aren't partially black, like white/asian mixtures.
Finding a character relatable on a physical level is very difficult, especially if you're a brown mixed girl with dark eyes and dark hair. Most mixed people shown are white/black with light hair and skin and beautiful colored eyes.
Also those surveys!!! They always have:
Choose ONE and then it will be followed up with
white (non Hispanic)
black (non Hispanic
Choosing is always so difficult, we're never represented in anything especially race related issues. You can see for yourself on gag with the race questions. There's never an option for us, it's like we're forgotten about.
5. Which backgrounds did you embrace the most?
Neither, I was always proud of being mixed. I don't ever recall claiming one half over the other. In fact I get very upset when someone tries to force me to choose. As if that's even possible!
6. Have you ever been teased for being different?
Of course! I've been teased a lot as a child but besides the standard stuff I think everyone goes through, some of the things people made fun of were the things that were a result of my ethnic background. I had people ask me why my hair was the way it was. Or why my skin was this weird color.
When I was a child my Jamaican grandmother didn't know how to take care of my hair.The result was a long frizzy mess that made the Hispanic kids think I was lying about my race. I had to bring pictures of my parents to prove what I was and it didn't help that I couldn't speak a lick of Spanish.
As I got older and took better care of my hair and they were more open and accepting of me, but black girls would treat me badly. Girls I didn't know well would start grabbing my hair, some would accuse me of wearing a weave and others were just plain mean. They felt I thought I was better than them because I was mixed and for what I looked like. I would get nasty stares and they would try to pick apart my physical features. Everything, from my slimmer body, to the way I spoke, to the curls in my hair.
7. Have you ever been ashamed of being multiracial?
This is another yes and no answer. I've always been proud of my mixedness and I am happy with who I am, however I couldn't help but feel offended if someone confused me with black or wouldn't accept that I'm mixed.
Growing up I have been told it was wrong for me to be who I am. I remember my earliest experience with racism was in kindergarten. I had a crush on this black boy who said he could never like me because I was "white" and I had a "white" mother. It was wrong for me to be mixed.
Black people would tell me I was "too white" for them and white people would tell "black jokes" that never applied to me.
I've been yelled at by black people that I must choose to be one race and if I didn't pick black then that meant I hated myself.
I don't feel ashamed of my ethnic background, it's beautiful but I am NOT just black girl and I am NOT just a Hispanic girl. I'll enjoy my reggae music, and my latin music. I'll enjoy the foods from both of my cultures and wear my flags proudly. However, to say just black or just Hispanic is both unfair and untrue. The fact is I'm not just a black girl and I'm not just a latin girl. I'm both.
I can't ever be anything besides both so I refuse to be called one thing over the other. Plus my black background is divided so it doesn't even makes sense to pick that when it's hardly there.
8. Do you feel that being mixed has its benefits?
Just a few. My unique facial features, skin tone, and hair type are all the result of being mixed. I believe myself to be very beautiful and it's because of my parents. I also feel that since I am mixed I'm not attached to one race and it allows me to see everything from a neutral eye.
In the times of high race relations I don't feel like I'm obligated to stick up for one group. Because of this I can take a stand for anyone regardless of what they look like, I feel like I'm floating above the world and I'm simply observing.
9. What makes being multiracial a beautiful thing?
Besides what we look like there's the benefit of growing up with different cultures. So many people seem to confuse skin tone with having a different culture like with black Americans and white Americans however we know that is the furthest things from the truth. Growing up mixed means we've got our plate filled with different spices of life and it enables us venture out and talk to different kinds of people.
I have friends from all walks of life of all kinds of cultures, and all skin colors. Being mixed means not being afraid of someone who is different from you racially, because literally everyone no matter what color will be different from you.
10. Any advice to someone who struggles with their multiracial identity?
I would say don't be ashamed of who you are in spite of the ignorance of others. Being who you are is just as beautiful as anyone else being who they are. Take pride in your mixed heritage, embrace all sides. You are JUST AS MUCH as one thing as you are the other.
It doesn't matter what people CHOOSE to view you as, it isn't going to change what you ACTUALLY are. If other people reject you and mistreat you then they're people who don't need to be in your life. There is nothing wrong with being mixed. We are beautiful and we are special. Love yourself and take pride in ALL that you are not just certain parts.
Just a side note:
mixed people can look like anything, including just black, or just white or just Asian or just whatever. The images I used were to give a representation of me. I can't post any pictures so I chose to find some art that would give you an idea of what I look like.