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This depends on the ex.

There are a 1-2 where I would gladly lead on and burn them preemptively. Reason being is what they did to me has never been done to them before. They actually need a painful lesson to see what their shitty decisions can do to people.

For example I had one ex completely ghost me after 9 months of dating after a minor argument. If she had experienced that herself (doubt she ever has) she would think twice about doing it to someone else. I however just never ghosted anybody out of simple principles. I always gave someone closure no matter how uncomfortable it was. But some people unfortunately just don’t have respect and common sense and need the school of hard knocks.

However I would just ignore others and avoid dating them. There is one girl I would have done a better job with communicating/responding with before she made a horrible decision (99.99% sure she cheated). That one could do turned out differently. But I would definitely kept my guard up.

I ruined a good opportunity several years ago with a woman who could of been my wife. I didn’t cheat but I didn’t appreciate and reciprocate the love/respect she gave me. It was a complicated situation but I failed to communicate effectively. I owned up to being in the wrong when she broke up with me.

But it’s almost been 10 years now and I have had other gfs and flings. Nothing has come close to what I once had with this woman. No one understood me like she did.

However I’ve seen plenty of other shitty women I’ve past known manage to successfully get married and have kids. Who knows if their husbands are their dream men but something must of worked for them to settle down. But it doesn’t seem like men get as many second chances as women do when we screw up a good opportunity.

It was the only time in my entire life I made a mistake like that. She actually did something to deeply hurt me after ever split. That’s a whole another story but bad karma does exist I already got it back seven fold and got it back hard.

But why I do feel like I have had bad lingering karma ever since? Or is it that men in general have fewer options?