My boyfriend wants me back after I caught him on tinder?

[moniix9]

So me and my boyfriend are almost a year , we had a rough patch a few days ago to the point we were going to brake up but we communicated and everything was fine after. But on Monday I found out he was on tinder and added a pictures. He told me he did that because he was “stupid” and thought we were going to brake up. Even when we were in good terms he still had tinder on his phone but claims he didn’t went on it or swiped on girls. Which I have a hard time believing but that day when I found out I told him about it and he apologized but later found out that same day I told him about being on tinder , he was messaging girls on Snapchat. He deleted the messages quickly because he said he felt “bad”. He said he won’t do it again but I don't know. What do you guys think?

[DaveJord]

I marvel how these guys are so stupid with their phones. Like how the fuck does he let you see that. First thing i do when I date a woman is delete the apps, you can still log on through the website. But I do that because I give a shit. So maybe he just didn't give a shit. What i mean by that is that if he was seriously trying to play you, he would have tried harder to hide it.

Cut the guy a break, he took you back, didn't he? So instead of trying to find the next thing to argue about, maybe you should find mor positive things to invest in.

[kylee2437]

Another ridiculous reply from you today

[DaveJord]

@kylee2437 Wow, I guess you are trolling me. Thanks goodness you are the wised person in the in world prepared to right all the wrongs.

[DaveJord]

Karen2437

[kylee2437]

@DaveJord trolling? You told her to forgive someone that is cheating on her and then justifying that he didn’t mean to cheat since he didn’t cheat hard enough. Are you okay?

[DaveJord]

@kylee2437 Is he cheating on her? She does not know that. They were broken up and he got on tinder and then he took her back. She never said he was cheating on her.

[DaveJord]

She took him then she got on his phone and looked through his stuff... so who is more insecure about that relationship him or her?

I don't know honestly and neither do you.

[kylee2437]

@DaveJord “even on good terms he had tinder on his phone” and even then so 4 days after a break up and on tinder but still messaging her? There’s still room to say he has overall bad intentions.

[kylee2437]

This isn’t about who is more insecure, it’s about a man who does things in a relationship to create distrust and insecurities

[DaveJord]

@kylee2437 They were broken up.. read the post. You are assuming too much Kareen.

"He told me he did that because he was “stupid” and thought we were going to brake up."

I mean it doesn't sound like they have good relationship honestly... let's consider this... they argue they she say they were about to break up, he thought they were breaking up... and first thing he does is get on tinder. But they don't break up, they stay together and she goes straight to his phone.

So the chances of this being a success story are extremely low. So the facts are he thought at some point they were breaking up, but then didn't. And all I am saying, is that if he was seriously "cheating" he would of did more to hide it from her.

[kylee2437]

@DaveJord I didn’t assume anything. You insinuated giving him a second chance because he was only trying to be “a wee bit sneaky” . Why are you referring to me as a Karen when your reply revolves around sticking up for the stupidity of unloyal men? Ridiculous.

[DaveJord]

@kylee2437 The whole thing sound ridiculous to me... why are you assume on the word of the woman that he is to blame, and she had done nothing wrong.

[kylee2437]

@DaveJord you have to go based off of what she said. Why are you trying to paint her as the bad person when the story is about him wronging her? Why do you never hold accountability towards clearly wrong people in your replies?

[DaveJord]

Do remember the Friends episode where Rachel tells Ross she wants to break up... so then Ross hook up with a woman. Then the next day Rachel doesn't want to break up... and then she finds out and Ross says; "But we were on a break!"

This to total Ross and Rachel situation... and that was a dysfunctional relationship as well.

[DaveJord]

@kylee2437 I did not paint her as a bad person did I say that? NOOOOOO I DIDN'T KAREEN!! Goodness woman you need to take a chill pill... are you BPD?

[kylee2437]

I never said it wasn’t dysfunctional. You can however tell where someone’s mind is at on what they do when they are on a “break” however especially 4 days into it. It’s not like it was going on a month

[kylee2437]

Why is it whenever someone disagrees with you, they are a Karen? Your whole entire reply is on about how he must of had good intent since he didn’t try hard enough. All I pointed out, is how ridiculous that sounds

[DaveJord]

@kylee2437 A break is a break... its like a free pass to a guy who is heartbroken. If cared you would not of broken it off.

[kylee2437]

A persons actions on a break reveal their intent throughout the relationship

[kylee2437]

And side note, you know your point is problematic when you have to involve a drama based tv show to prove a point

[DaveJord]

@kylee2437 lol you're a riot

[RavVid]

A genuine concern I think. In the best case it is an online version of flirting but that is wrong if partnered.

[BrookeAZ90]

I think you'll regret it if you continue this. If he was on Tinder the whole time, that's pretty inexcusable to begin with but then getting on there again BEFORE a breakup that only MIGHT happen? Nooooooooooo. He can't even wait for the actual breakup before he's worried about his next options which means he's not fully committed to this to begin with. It's a good lesson to learn for things to keep an eye on in the future but that relationship should be over.

[kylee2437]

Nope. Do not take him back. He seems pretty eager to go talk to new people when you two are having issues within the relationship, I wouldn’t doubt that he’s been talking to other women while with you.

[moniix9]

That’s why it surprises me it was a healthy relationship , we didn’t really argued but like every relationship theirs up and downs. So that day we communicated and everything but he was too quick to text girls. He’s trying to come back and tells me he won’t do that again but now I feel like it’s gonna be hard to trust him again

[Nikki1989]

Don't take him back. You deserve better than this.

[Iron_Man]

I wouldn’t trust him

[mommymommymommy]

you deserve better

[Luckycharms12]

Maybe he made a mistake

[moniix9]

that’s what I think to but I don't know because he even told me it was “mistake” but he promises he won’t do it again. He said he was “just stupid” .

[Luckycharms12]

Could be honest. But has to earn back your trust and prove himself

[Pterodon]

He would have cheated