My boyfriend ignored me completely after meeting me. Should I dump him?

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Days back, i met my boyfriend at his apartment and we made love and everything was okay but since i came back to my place he had been ignoring me not reading my messages etc. And when he replied after hours he seemed to be uninterested and his behavior changed completely before meeting and after meeting before meeting he showed full attention and love and care but after meeting he didn't talk to me properly and when i confronted him he blamed me. In the beginning of our relationship he used to be very nice and always texted something sweet after meeting and showered me with love and attention. But now he shows attention only when he wants to meet me. And he hadn't been replying to me since 2 days. He was online and putting up stories but avoiding me. We had multiple break ups because i caught him talking to multiple girls in a flirty way and talking to other girls on call and not picking up my calls. But i eventually forgave him because he kept on justifying himself and telling me im judgmental so i thought it was my fault somehow. Should i dump him and move on for real this time?

Truthbewithyou · Accepted Answer

It sucks but your boyfriend is playing the game. Sex is a goal for men and for many it is the only goal. Many guys will do whatever they have to do to make you think they're really into you to get you to have sex with them. Once they get sex they don't have much of a need for you anymore. Ways of detecting this is like what you mentioned; he started acting different after you slept with him. Because of this, they go off looking for another woman to achieve the goal. Sometimes, they'll keep the previous women on standby for when they're down on their luck. Guys like this are not good men, they're players and they are lost. With that said, I'd rather not tell you what you should do because It's best for you to decide that for yourself. However, I would advise you to ask yourself what kind of guy do you think you're worth? One who values you or one who doesn't?

SecretsofKB · Accepted Answer

I always say this, but I really don't like telling people to break up.

But, honey, in this case you need to. He doesn't see you the same way you see him. He doesn't value you besides sex.

You shouldn't be with this person.

AncientWisdom · Accepted Answer

Nah that’s kinda odd if a dudes into you after he has sex he wants to be close to you. I mean I’m a big old ugly biker and still want my after sex snuggling and small talk. ( don’t tell my bros though 😂) ah fuck it tell em they can’t whoop me , but yeah that’s odd sounds like he used you for sex , and is now showing you he ain’t really about it. Huh? Anyway take care and be careful. Lots of good men out there that’s wants a women.

GlassTop · Accepted Answer

I feel like we are only getting bits and pieces of a full story. What were you arguing about? What happened during your time with him? I could go on, but if you feel like it’s not worth your time, just end contact. Sounds like you are already there. It gets harder the more you love him. And it’s also harder the longer you’ve been together.

Star_88 · Answer

Blame yourself for not having self respect. He only wanted to sleep with you. Most guys manipulate girls to have sex by sweet talking.
You should dump a guy as soon as you see his changed behavior from being attentive to a jerk who pretends you don't exist. Even if you didn't caught him before, you should have dumped him for ignoring you.
Your soon to be ex is an attention seeking manwhore. He's a dirty pig that sucks shit from different girls' asses.

boggboss · Answer

U should have left this situation a vary long time ago you are silly for staying

Nazorella · Answer

I always believe that if you start to questioning yourself means you already decide but waiting some support. Block him.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

Onto the next, I didn't read all of it because it keeps getting exhausting. I would leave him and start dating. He isn't your husband so why worry about it? Onto better things.

wonderingoldman · Answer

Old saying, 'why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free'. Once he gets a taste he's gone till he gets thirsty again. Speaks to his level of commitment more than yours

DonkeyDan · Answer

Sounds like maybe he has someone else on the hook, or he's just not into you anymore. So yes I think its time to preserve your dignity and move on.

anniisa97 · Answer

Dump him and never look back. Life is too short to be wasting it on trash men like this

driven159 · Answer

Time to move on find one that doesn't play games waste of time

Abby005 · Answer

You should he’s treating you like crap. Only reason he’s with you he’s has no other options.

Adam1978 · Answer

You didn't make the cut. So yes leave him, he will just waste your time.

crimsonandclover2 · Answer

Try to contact him again and ask him what's his problem, but if doesn't reply dump the jerk You can do better

loveslongnails · Answer

If you want to be a tool and a fool, then stay. If you had any self-respect, you'd already be gone and wouldn't have to ask this question.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

He's using you for sex and gaslighting you when he's called out on his behavior. Dump his ass.

Anonymous · Answer

Dump him. He got what he wanted and now is showing his true colors

Anonymous · Answer

He looks like a playboy who takes what he wants from you and then puts you down. but i hope you both get peace soon.

skyeee_ · Answer

he's only taking advantage of you, better to leave him before he does even more questionable shit

OddBeMe · Answer

Yeah. Maybe next time, play a little harder to get…

scooogy · Answer

Yes, because solving conflicts in a mature way can lead to cancer, science found out. 🙄

Iron_Man · Answer

Don’t you want peace of mind at least talk it out to find out what happened

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Dump him! He just wants sex.

My boyfriend ignored me completely after meeting me. Should I dump him?

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