My boyfriend ignored me completely after meeting me. Should I dump him?

[Anonymous]

Days back, i met my boyfriend at his apartment and we made love and everything was okay but since i came back to my place he had been ignoring me not reading my messages etc. And when he replied after hours he seemed to be uninterested and his behavior changed completely before meeting and after meeting before meeting he showed full attention and love and care but after meeting he didn't talk to me properly and when i confronted him he blamed me. In the beginning of our relationship he used to be very nice and always texted something sweet after meeting and showered me with love and attention. But now he shows attention only when he wants to meet me. And he hadn't been replying to me since 2 days. He was online and putting up stories but avoiding me. We had multiple break ups because i caught him talking to multiple girls in a flirty way and talking to other girls on call and not picking up my calls. But i eventually forgave him because he kept on justifying himself and telling me im judgmental so i thought it was my fault somehow. Should i dump him and move on for real this time?

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+1 y

Thanks to you all for sharing your opinion and advices it does help me a lot. And yeah im dumping him.

[Truthbewithyou]

It sucks but your boyfriend is playing the game. Sex is a goal for men and for many it is the only goal. Many guys will do whatever they have to do to make you think they're really into you to get you to have sex with them. Once they get sex they don't have much of a need for you anymore. Ways of detecting this is like what you mentioned; he started acting different after you slept with him. Because of this, they go off looking for another woman to achieve the goal. Sometimes, they'll keep the previous women on standby for when they're down on their luck. Guys like this are not good men, they're players and they are lost. With that said, I'd rather not tell you what you should do because It's best for you to decide that for yourself. However, I would advise you to ask yourself what kind of guy do you think you're worth? One who values you or one who doesn't?

[SecretsofKB]

I always say this, but I really don't like telling people to break up.

But, honey, in this case you need to. He doesn't see you the same way you see him. He doesn't value you besides sex.

You shouldn't be with this person.

[Asker]

Yeah i think i shouldn't look back this time. I need to just let him go. I was holding on to him because of how in treated in the beginning and i didn't want to loose that. Now i have realized he would never be like that again.

[SecretsofKB]

I'm glad you came to this realization. Its the right one. He will never be that same guy he was to you in the beginning.

Leave him behind and go find someone that treats you the way you deserve.

[Asker]

But the problem is i keep on checking my phone for his messages and calls. I have realized it but i miss him and can't help myself from texting him if he texts me back

[SecretsofKB]

Block him. Remove his number and block him. Recruit a friend to help to with not texting him.

It'll suck a lot at first, trust me, but it'll be worth it once this stage passes.

[AncientWisdom]

Nah that’s kinda odd if a dudes into you after he has sex he wants to be close to you. I mean I’m a big old ugly biker and still want my after sex snuggling and small talk. ( don’t tell my bros though 😂) ah fuck it tell em they can’t whoop me , but yeah that’s odd sounds like he used you for sex , and is now showing you he ain’t really about it. Huh? Anyway take care and be careful. Lots of good men out there that’s wants a women.

[AncientWisdom]

Thank you for the MHO.

[GlassTop]

I feel like we are only getting bits and pieces of a full story. What were you arguing about? What happened during your time with him? I could go on, but if you feel like it’s not worth your time, just end contact. Sounds like you are already there. It gets harder the more you love him. And it’s also harder the longer you’ve been together.

[Star_88]

Blame yourself for not having self respect. He only wanted to sleep with you. Most guys manipulate girls to have sex by sweet talking.
You should dump a guy as soon as you see his changed behavior from being attentive to a jerk who pretends you don't exist. Even if you didn't caught him before, you should have dumped him for ignoring you.
Your soon to be ex is an attention seeking manwhore. He's a dirty pig that sucks shit from different girls' asses.

[Star_88]

Also, if someone makes you upset and them blames you, then it's also a huge red flag. How did you even got convinced that it was your fault?

[boggboss]

U should have left this situation a vary long time ago you are silly for staying

[Asker]

He made me believe i was the one who was wrong and that he thoughtof the girls as his friends. I was so confused and was deeply in love with him.

[boggboss]

We make silly choices when in love this situation is toxic

[Nazorella]

I always believe that if you start to questioning yourself means you already decide but waiting some support. Block him.

[Asker]

I hate this feeling of being left and used. He was begging to date me and i wasn't even a bit interested in him in the first place.

[Asker]

i feel like being used and thrown away

[Asker]

And i won't get anyone else also because he threatens the guys who like me and he spread rumors about me.

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

Onto the next, I didn't read all of it because it keeps getting exhausting. I would leave him and start dating. He isn't your husband so why worry about it? Onto better things.

[wonderingoldman]

Old saying, 'why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free'. Once he gets a taste he's gone till he gets thirsty again. Speaks to his level of commitment more than yours

[Asker]

i kinda hate myself for giving him multiple chances

[Asker]

now im being left after being used

[Asker]

i hate this feeling a lot he was the one begging to date me in the first place i was not even a bit interested in him

[DonkeyDan]

Sounds like maybe he has someone else on the hook, or he's just not into you anymore. So yes I think its time to preserve your dignity and move on.

[Abby005]

You should he’s treating you like crap. Only reason he’s with you he’s has no other options.

[Asker]

now i feel like a real crap

[Asker]

being used and thrown away

[Asker]

i wasn't even interested in him in the first place he was the one who begged to be my boyfriend now im feeling like a fool

[anniisa97]

Dump him and never look back. Life is too short to be wasting it on trash men like this

[driven159]

Time to move on find one that doesn't play games waste of time

[Asker]

Its really driving me crazy with the fact that the guy who begged to date me used and throw me

[Asker]

Everyone told me im out of his league

[Asker]

so i shouldn't accept him but i didn't listen

[Asker]

now i feel like the a real fool the dumbest

[driven159]

Your only dumb if you don't learn from it so learn and move on

[loveslongnails]

If you want to be a tool and a fool, then stay. If you had any self-respect, you'd already be gone and wouldn't have to ask this question.

[Adam1978]

You didn't make the cut. So yes leave him, he will just waste your time.

[crimsonandclover2]

Try to contact him again and ask him what's his problem, but if doesn't reply dump the jerk
You can do better

[Asker]

i feel being used and thrown away

[Asker]

i don't even get the chance to dump the guy who treats me like an object

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

He's using you for sex and gaslighting you when he's called out on his behavior. Dump his ass.

[Anonymous]

He looks like a playboy who takes what he wants from you and then puts you down. but i hope you both get peace soon.

[skyeee_]

he's only taking advantage of you, better to leave him before he does even more questionable shit

[Anonymous]

Dump him. He got what he wanted and now is showing his true colors

[OddBeMe]

Yeah. Maybe next time, play a little harder to get…

[scooogy]

Yes, because solving conflicts in a mature way can lead to cancer, science found out. 🙄

[Iron_Man]

Don’t you want peace of mind at least talk it out to find out what happened

[Gwenhwyfar]

Dump him! He just wants sex.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Good

[lrina]

yeah... he's not the right guy for you then

[Citizenkirk]

Absolutely, dump the bastard!

[awkward_author]

You should break up with him.

[Anonymous]

I'd kick him in the balls and break up with him.

[anniisa97]

I mean the second you kick him in the balls he's justified to smack you back so you better not complain later on

[Opinion Owner]

@anniisa97 he would be too busy rolling around on the floor and crying in pain, that's what all men do when I kick them in the balls.

[anniisa97]

Yeah I know that, im just talking in general. Dont hit a guy and not expect to be hit back or play the feminist card when it does happen

[AvaAmaliaReturns]

Dump. He has someone else. You should too.

[AnthonyJ01]

Good bye

[Anonymous]

haha lol