Me and this guy dated for about 3 months. He and I both knew I was moving away when we first met but we still proceeded to date. I knew the move was temporary so I thought I would come back and we would probably make it official if it lasted a year. After month 1 i wrote him a note saying that I really liked him and if he feels the same I would like to have some intention while dating each other. He didn’t respond for hours and told me we should have this conversation in person. Basically he told me he wasn’t sure but he wants to pursue the idea of a relationship with me. It wasn’t certain. i was traveling to see him every two weeks and would stay by his house. He was very sweet at first then he started to become distant and cold. He stopped planning dates, he was never chivalrous, didn’t call as much and it really hurt. I felt like i deserved more and I kept expressing that to him but he never changed. One day I had enough and told him this isn’t working out and he agreed.
A month later I seen him at a party and I said hello. I got really drunk which is unlike me and at the end of the party he asked to talk to me. I barely remember the conversation but it wasn’t terrible or aggressive. I’m not like that drunk or not. He left after our conversation. I remember texting him that if he wanted to make it would he would’ve. He never responded.
I apologized the next morning and asked if we could have a conversation while I’m sober. He told me he didn’t feel comfortable doing that. I literally kept asking him and he would either ignore me or tell me no.
months later I seen him again at a concert and he spoke to me. We kept it brief. Every time I see him in public we speak but keep it brief and move on. He’s a singer so one day he wrote a song blaming himself for a “relationship not working out”. I listened to the snippet he posted, and he talked about how the distance affected him and he blamed himself for his lack of communication but still never said anything to me
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Well he never completely ignored you. So you right there lied. You admitted in your post that he spoke to you more than once after things ended.
He did tell you. He made it known early on things weren't working and the distance was getting to him when he was becoming distance. He also agreed that it wasn't working out. You on the other hand kept chasing him.
My context was not expressed properly. I meant if he wanted to talk to me and I was drunk, why would he not give me the chance to talk to him sober. He was the one asking to talk first then ignored me when I asked to speak
He doesn't sound really into things
What do you mean exactly? Sorry I didn’t get it.
I just think that if a guy doesn't spend a lot of his time with a girl he doesn't really like her that much