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Long story short fighting with boyfriend over his 4-5 day disappearing hanging with other people and chicks, and then when I go anywhere even a gas station for 35 min to an hour hanging out with my friends he gets upset and wants me to break down my reasons well on day 4 I said I didn't want to continue the relationship with how much he takes off never tells me where he's going makes me worry and never replies to me. Never helps at home with the baby.. so I finally say point blank in black and white, WHAT ARE YOUR INTENTIONS WITH OUR RELATIONSHIP? he says he will move out, I'm a fucking bitch, he can't stand me, and he will come pack his stuff.
Later 6 hours later asks if he can come get clothes I say yes. He shows up to sleep and repeat the cycle of taking off once awake. NOW 4 days after finding out his intentions I've tried distancing myself, Detaching etc. And He sparks another argument with me which I say why does it matter that I cooked dinner with my family last night I deserve social interaction too besides just kids all day. He says it's not fair cause he doesn't get to go out. He will count me 1 hour with my family but his 5 to 8 hour hangout at the neighbors wasn't getting out. Then I blow up saying, Were not together so who gives a fuck and he's like oh now we're not together I'm like no we haven't been together since you told me your intentions. I used to love him so much but the controlling behavior only seems to be getting worse. To the point he tells our neighbors he was going to smack the fuck out of me. Like what man does that? If someone told you that they hate you and their intentions were to leave you, then, by all means why does he think we're now working it out? Yea I've been civil. Civilly waiting for him to get his shit and go. Then says he doesn't know what makes me think he didn't want to still be with me? Like I'm more into self love after this experience. I asked point blank his intentions yet I'm the bad person now.

So I am in an exklusive dating with a guy who is 30 and I am 22. We ve been dating since October 2024.

I feel like there are some issues between us and also there are some problems on my part that I feel like may cause this relationship to end.

A month ago, I asked how he feels about me and if we could be girlfriend and boyfriend, but he said he is not read.

He says he likes me, and we do go on some dates every time we meet. But I feel like he is mostly interested in sex. Why do things that are done in a relationship but not want to have a relationship? Is it commitment issues or he just doesn't love me?

by the way we live in different cities so we visit each other. Like taking turns.

I want to love and to be loved deeply, but I feel like he does not love me and my feeling for him are decreasing, maybe because I am dissapointed. And for me, feelings is what makes me continue a relationship, which mean it's more important for me than sex.

I feel so insecure because of a lot of things

- that he does not show enough care. For example when he talks about his problems, I pay attention, care for him and solve them together. But when I talk about my problems, he just say it's gonna be alright and good night. No more comfort/care or whatever.

- he forgot my birthday

- I feel like he just is dating me as a second option just because other girls have not chosen him

- that my university grades are not so great right now and my family use me now and then.

- a lot of things has happened lately that makes me question myself, my relationship and my family. I see negativity more that positivity. I don't know if I am starting to become depressed.

I am a bit naive I guess.

I am thinking if I should break up with him because I don't feel loved the way I want or if I just should wait and see how it goes first and then decide.

I am also tired of dating and relationship that waste my time and feelings. I am tired of being used just for being kind. People treat me as an idiot and naive.

I’m wondering if this guy at work could have a crush on me or at the very least find me attractive. We work in completely different departments so there is minimal chance that our paths would cross in a work related context. Here is a list of his behaviours:

He is the one who started interacting with me. I noticed him gazing at me one day, our eyes met and he smiled at me.

The gazing/smiling happened a few times and he would always be the first to smile, I’d always be the first to look away.

When I eventually said hi to him, he smiled even more

He went through a phase of ignoring me and looking away when stood near me

When we do talk, he is smiling the whole time.
On our first proper interaction, he asked where I work and he said twice that he will have to come and “check it out”. I also told him what time I finish.

My friends said that they saw him walking past our office and staring into our office, ten minutes after I finished.

He acts somewhat awkward/fidgety when we walk and he sometimes backs away/walks away when we talk.

My work friends have noticed the way he looks at me. One saw us talking and she said “if my boyfriend looked like that at another girl, I’d be upset”

I was walking behind my friend and he was walking towards us. He was practically fixated on me and staring at me, then I looked at him, and he smiled at me.

I’ve never seen him talk to other random girls who aren’t in his department.

I’ve noticed that he will mess with his hair if I am nearby.

We sometimes make eye contact from afar.

Yesterday, as I turned around, I saw him looking away quickly which would indicate he was staring at me. And then as I was grabbing some cutlery, I looked up and he was staring at me.

There are some things I find confusing:

I’ve never caught him staring at me and looking at me loads
He never looks at my body, he just stares into my eyes and at my mouth
The whole walking away/backing away when I’m talking to him confuses me

What do you guys think?

For obvious reasons I'll be keeping it Anonymous so I'll be using (A) for the girl (best friend) and (B) for the boyfriend

For context we're all pretty close with each other, we were friends before they got together and honestly I consider him a best friend too, and if we're being completely real I consider him a brother.

My best friend is a year older than her boyfriend and she's in college while we're still in high school in our senior year. Me and B were talking on the phone and then the topic of prom came up and I mentioned not having a date and how hard it would be for me to get one since everyone is basically cuffed and its hard for me to start conversations with new people and then he said "go with me" and I just sort of brushed it off because I knew he had a girlfriend and I figured she'd just go with him since he when to her prom last year. Now as I've said I don't think of him that way but I still think it would be weird to go with some else's boyfriend even if we are just friends.

Should I ask both of them to prom? Should I go with him? Should I go with her? Or Should I not go at all?

Sorry for the long read. Thanks in advance!!