Why would my girl friends accusing me for turning down a blind date because of his height?

[AmazonChick171]

So earlier this evening after I got off of work, my best friend texted me that our other friend and her found a guy for me and really wants to meet me. She asked if I was interested. I told her I’m working on myself and I need to get my shit together before I go on another date so I’ll have to pass. Then my other friend said, “Oh let me guess, is it because he may be short or you’re hoping he isn’t short isn’t it?”
Then I said, “No that’s not it! I’m just taking a break from dating so I can get over my insecurities! Remember my ex boyfriend was 5’7.”
Then she said, “Yeah but would you dare a shorter guy again? You tall women especially over six feet need to grow up and get over it! Not a lot of men are that tall so you ladies don’t have a choice but dating men shorter than you.”

Then my bestie said, “She’s right. Get over it! Most of the guys you dated are shorter than you. So what? Short men date women taller than then because they’re below average and average height women are average. We can’t change out heights so get over it. That’s why we didn’t tell you his height because you may reject him because of it but it’s a good thing you said no so it can save him from hurt. He doesn’t care that a woman is tall or short.

I kept telling them height isn’t the reason but they didn’t respond back. My friends always do this when they try to hook me up or pair me with guys that want me.
They need to back off. I really want to work on myself. It could be weeks, months or even a couple years.

[SixFootSexy]

One of my friends was trying to set me up on a blind date with a woman, "She's great friends with my wife, she's blonde and cute. Oh and she also has a kid and is looking for a SERIOUS relationship. So don't date her if you're not wanting to settle down."

The more he told me about her, the more I was thinking: No thanks. No blind date needs that kind of pressure. Plus I have a personal rule to never seriously date any single mom.

I didn't date her and have no regrets there.

[msc545]

Hi there, go out with the guy that they fixed you up with no matter how tall or short he is or just tell them that you don't want to be fixed up with anyone. It sounds like these girls are a little tired like we are of your constant complaining about men in general.

[AmazonChick171]

I should have to be told what time can and can’t do! Being a 6’4 woman in the dating world is harder than a 5’9 woman

[msc545]

Yes, it probably is harder than being a 5'9 woman. Arguably however, it is easier than being a fat ugly woman. We all have our problems with dating and you obviously have yours. Complaining about it constantly on here. It's not making things better for you and in fact is probably making them worse in many ways.

Your intransigence relative to short men and their acceptability to you or lack thereof is not helping things.

You expect men to make exceptions for your relatively extreme height and you are not wrong about that. On the other hand, you refuse to make any exceptions for a man's height and you are in fact quite wrong about that and you are paying the price for that by being alone still.

You might want to consider the notion that some compromise on your part might result in some happiness and satisfaction and contentment flowing your way. You only have one life to live like the rest of us and that life is for all of us tragically short. Make the most of yours please.

[Anonymous]

Lol, just by the shit you say on here we all know you're shallow asf against short men. Your "well my ex was 5'7" is the equivalent of the racist saying "I can't be racist, I've that one black friend".

It's been said before and I'll say it again, maybe just maybe it's not everyone else but you. They're perhaps trying to set you up because all you do is cry about how no man likes you because you're a ogresse.

[AmazonChick171]

Ogresse? Oh that’s VERY MATURE.
You’re just jealous because I can reach. I don’t need my friends setting me up!

[Opinion Owner]

Lol, no dear. I'm not immature. Clearly you do with how much you whine about being unwanted miss ogresse, who's whining about how the petite coworker can get any man she wants and therefore she ain't allowed to say anything about herself around the whiney ogresse you are.

I'm sorry;, I'm not jealous of a ogresse - unlike you I actually look like a feminine woman not a ogresse who's unwanted by majority of men.

[Opinion Owner]

It's cute that you think I'm jealous when we all know you'd be jealous as fuck around me. All I have to do to get your blood boiling is telling you that I'd look ridiculous with big feet because I'm quite petite. 😘

No wonders no man ever wants you.

[AmazonChick171]

😳😳😳

[Opinion Owner]

👌👌👌

[Ironco]

Sounds like your friends aren't real friends then.

Work out what you need to do be happy and don't worry about what they say.

Take your time, you're young and have fun on that journey.

[AmazonChick171]

Thank you so much!

[AnonAndrew]

I wouldn't be so quick to claim someone is not a "real" friend because of one thing like this. We don't know what reasons they may have had for saying what they said.

[Anonymous]

Well if your friends are always trying to do this than maybe what they’re saying is true. It’s like stereotypes. People just don’t make up stereotypes for a reason. They’re true. So if you’re saying your friends are always doing this than again maybe it’s true.

[AmazonChick171]

No they’re lying! They always think I turn down meeting guys because they’re shorter than me. It’s not true. I’m working on myself to mature and date again. I just need to be single for a while. Us tall women always get shit for things. Why are you siding with my friends?

[Opinion Owner]

I’m not siding w your friends. Even if I was why does it matter? You asked, I answered. I don’t get why women post questions on here then get mad when people have a difference of opinion and don’t agree w them. Why even ask? If this is the case as far as your friends lying, why are you even friends w them to begin w?

[AmazonChick171]

Hey not all women are like this! Watch your mouth! Men think all women can’t handle the truth! That’s stereotypical if you and men to say that about women. Plus I told my friends off

[Opinion Owner]

Not all but seems like a majority of them. You included. What kind of friend are you too by telling them off? You’re 25 for a reason w no man. I don’t get why women always say I need to fix myself. But I bet you were running around sleeping w dudes, giving it up. Now you can’t find a good man.

[AmazonChick171]

Now I don’t go that far. I don’t sleep around with me. That’s what a slut does.

[Opinion Owner]

It’s not about sleeping around. Again you’re that age for a reason still looking fr a man. Wouldn’t be surprised if it drags on.

[AmazonChick171]

Whatever

[Opinion Owner]

Tell me that a few years from now when you’re in the same boat

[AnonAndrew]

Do you have a history of mainly being interested in tall guys (your 5’7 ex-boyfriend aside) ? If you do, then that might be why they thought that was the reason.

If not, then I don't know, because then their behavior wouldn't make sense.

[Surely]

They are not great friends if they can’t respect your wishes. On the other hand. If you complain to them a lot about not finding that particular guy. That sweeps you off your feet. Then maybe you just need to go off grid for a while.

[oldpigg]

Then don't have any friends and stop whining.

[AmazonChick171]

I’m not whining! I’m telling the truth

[oldpigg]

Don't have friends, simple.

[AmazonChick171]

Well I’ve known them since high school so I can’t just cut them off.

[oldpigg]

That's actually pretty pathetic, but it boosts my ego to know that not everyone can break away from relationships as easily as I can.

[AmazonChick171]

What’s pathetic that I’m still friends with them? If they were shady and nasty they would be my friends anymore.

[renodnol32]

Your friends need to understand and respect your wishes. Regardless of the reasons, ultimately it is your life and decision. True friends would understand rather than pester you about something you are taking a break from or not ready for yet.

[AmeerX]

You do have a history of whining about heights. But I will give you some advice.

Think of other things you want them to be appropriate for you.

[slatyb]

The next time they bring it up, change the subject.