What do you think I should do? Should I keep taking to this guy, call him out, ghost him etc?

[CAPLOVE]

I have been talking to this guy for more than a month and we have hung out at least 7 times. We both are into each other, talk every day all day, and are on the verge of becoming a couple. He knows I am interested in becoming boyfriend and girlfriend.

Last night he told me that he was going to a party and then said that he misses me and really wants to see me again.

This morning I opened my insta and he had a new post with multiple photos. One of the photos was a pic of him, his friend, and a girl, the girl was closer to him in the photo which I thought was odd. He obviously posted these pics while he was drunk. This morning he took that one pick down which I think is odd and suspicious.

There also were comments from a girl I go to school with that said "digital footprint" and he responded, "it ai!". He did not used to be friends with this girl, I didn't like her, and I got the feeling that they must be talking for her to comment and for him to respond.

What are your thoughts? I need advice and need to know if I'm overreacting or not.

[Tarifa]

I think you're overreacting. No proof from the picture that he got too close to this girl. Isn't it normal to stand close to the people you take a picture or selfie with? Even if he has his arm around her or his hand on her shoulder or back, I wouldn't worry. Unless he distances himself from you from now on, I'd just forget about it.

[CAPLOVE]

ok, so keep talking to him? What if at this he was doing back and forth with a girl in his comments?

[Tarifa]

If he is special to you, you have every reason to expect that you're special too. From your description, I understand that you want to take it further and start a relationship, be his girlfriend. He may not be prepared to fully commit to you, or have his doubts if this is the correct route to take. It looks like at some point, you're going to have to be completely honest with him.

I'd keep talking to him, but of course you don't want him to flirt with someone else.

[RingOfFire]

Just slow things down. You need to give it more time to see if you can trust him or not. If your gut's telling you there are reasons he may not be trustworthy you should listen to it.

Don't rush it. If it's meant to be it's meant to be, if it's not it's not. Keep them as a friend and take your time.

If it's worth the relationship that will be plenty of time to develop it.

[IslaTheWitch]

I don't understand the problem here... in a relationship or not... he can talk to people... women or men...

and if you have a problem with him having pics with someone at the party and talking to them... I would say you have some unresolved insecurities...

[Finchie40]

The fact that he deleted that picture is a clear sign that he is up to no good , trying to cover his tracks basically, You are best to move on from him unless you wantTo be treated like a convenience

[CAPLOVE]

ok, thanks!!

[glennos89]

If he deleted that picture this morning I would definitely think twice if he is thrust worthy or not. Why would you deleted anything if you have nothing to hide or haven't done anything wrong? For me this would be red flags

[CAPLOVE]

I agree!! Big red flag. So do u think I should confront him, ghost him, or keep talking to him? I'm not his girlfriend so I feel like if I confront him he'll think I'm crazy but we also have been talking for a mouth and have kissed and gone out at least 7 times

[glennos89]

Confront him and thrust your gut feeling when he gives you an explanation. If you're not 100% sure he is going all in for you then you should leave.

[glennos89]

You are young and you are of the charts pretty, at least 75% of men wants you so why should you settle for anything less then what you deserve... A loyal boyfriend

[CAPLOVE]

aww thanks!! that makes me feel a lot better. I just wish he would reach out and ask me what's wrong or show up at my house and do the same and then I could say something like "I relly like you but youknow what I want and I don't think you want the same thing. want a boyfriend and someone to be exclusive with and we are obvisolly not exclusive. I thin maybe we would be better off as friends if we don't want the same thing".

[CAPLOVE]

What do you think? The only thing is what if he says he just wants to be friends? I feel like that would really hurt

[CAPLOVE]

I just am so confused becuse he told me we were exclusive and that he likes where things are going and wants to be my boyfriend eventually. He also texted me before he left for the party and said he missed me and wanted to see me so bad. But then he posts a pic with another girl and his friend, takes it down, and replies to a girl who commented on his post a (she goes to my school and I don't like her lol).

What do u think he was thinking?

[glennos89]

You are absolutely right about what you say. If you and him aren't exclusive then you should stop putting effort into building a relationship with him because you will only end up getting hurt with a broken heart

[glennos89]

You deserve so much better then that. If you and him were suppose to be exclusive but in the meantime he is having fun with some other random girl 🥶

It would mean the world to me to find someone like you to build a future with but your boyfriend doesn't seem to appreciate or realize what an amazing woman he has.
⅘
The things you have said so far about yourself really give me the gut feeling that you are "wifey material".

Forgive me for saying this but if it wasn't a 'inappropriate question to ask you because of our age difference I really would have ask you out on a date and show you how you should be treated by your guy 🙈🫶🏼

[Caroline91]

A month isn't very long. And if you haven't agreed to be exclusive, I don't see what the problem is. No reason to confront him or ghost him, especially ghosting. You might want to clarify that you are both open to seeing other people. Just don't get involved any deeper than you are if it isn't exclusive and do enjoy your time together.

[CAPLOVE]

AWW thanks!!! I just feel so much better!! I decided to just ghost him for the time being. Only thing is my friend is dating his friend so it’s a slippery slope lol

[CAPLOVE]

AWW thanks!!! I just feel so much better!! I decided to just ghost him for the time being. Only thing is my friend is dating his friend so it’s a slippery slope lol LOL I’m just so young that no one is looking for a wifey rn lol. It’s ok. I wish u were younger because you seem like a great guy

[glennos89]

Ahhww don't say that, now you making me blush 😳🙈

I'm far from being perfect but I did learn from the mistakes I made in my past relationships. I believe to have gained a pretty good understanding on how to make my wife happy both physically and emotionally.

I understand that you are still young and our age difference is pretty big but for me that's not a big deal because age is just a number. But if you ever struggle to find someone serious you can settle with, please let me know because I would love to see you happy and being treated like you deserve to be treated 💯😘

[CAPLOVE]

That's all u can do. Sometimes I regret things but then I think they were learning experiences.

AWWW, thanks!!! I love your advice and pep talks would we be able to friend each other so I can get your advice in the future?

[CAPLOVE]

You're marred? she must be one lucky lady lol

[glennos89]

I would love to be friends with you!

Can you click on my page and start following me pls?
I already follow you but we can't dm eachother untill we both agree to follow eachother.

If you prefer to communicate on another app let me know which one because I would love to get you know a little bit better 🤗

[glennos89]

I'm not sure if the message about being married was intended for me but I'm definitely not married and I have never been married. And I'm also not in a relationship with anyone. I'm not even having anyone else in my mind other then you. Wish I was younger because you are something special which is hard to find in woman these days 🙈

[Summeroflove]

Ghosting someone’s cowardly unless they won’t leave you alone after explicitly asking. I would ask him what’s going on if you have a bad feeling you’re probably onto something.

[NathanDavis]

he's more into partying than you...

yeah, not boyfriend material there, move on

[CAPLOVE]

LOL. I rlly don't mind if he parties it's a personal choice

[NathanDavis]

yeah... but

[NathanDavis]

he does have the rest of his life to party and get drunk with other girls...

and to him, that has not changed... someone who is really interested on you, will prefer you over drinks and girls at parties

[CAPLOVE]

That is a good point. I agree that we are very different because I have goals and asperations and all he wants to do is party

[NathanDavis]

that alone should be enough reason...

if you're in the USA and he is also 18 years old and already a drunktard like that... just run away as fast as you can and never look back, lol

[CAPLOVE]

Hahaha, good to know

[bowenw]

It sounds suspicious. I suggest you keep a close eye on him.

[CAPLOVE]

But what should I do should I call him out, act like it's all fine, ghost him, etc

[bowenw]

My gut feeling is if he was into you he should have invited you to the party. Since he didn't and and appears to be having fun with other women, I think you should consider ending it. A lot of young guys just want to have as much fun with as many women as possible. I get the feeling he is one of them.

[CAPLOVE]

Oh rlly. I didn't think it was that weird because we're not girlfriend and girlfriend and I don't drink so I think he knows I wouldn't enjoy myself. I do know that lol. yeah I could see that

[bowenw]

I'm just guessing based on what little information I have. You know best.

[GAGsucksballs89170]

Never ghost. That's not ok

[CAPLOVE]

dude ngl everyone does it lol. What do u suggest? Like I agree but I have had lots of people ghost me

[GAGsucksballs89170]

Doesn't make it right

[beefcakebradybatson]

Another reason to be glad I'm old !!!

[CAPLOVE]

hahaha, I was very much born in the wrong generation lol

[beefcakebradybatson]

Are you 71 like me, CAPLOVE?

[CAPLOVE]

nope I'm 18 lol