Search Results: starting sex

28F & I haven’t ever been in a LTR, I saw someone for a few months when I was 23 & that felt like settling. The bar is set even higher now & I’d rather be single than in a mediocre relationship. Ever since I was a teen I always felt like a lot of the girls were boy crazy & were so hyped about sex I thought they were overreacting. I thought I was a late bloomer & figured that feeling would happen to me eventually but it still hasn’t. I never really felt the pressure to date until I was close to graduating HS/ starting college & even then I had this feeling that felt kind of ick. I still do & the fact that I don’t care about sex at all to this day makes me think about asexuality. But I battle between not being sure if I actually want companionship, hence I use the dating apps very casually. Overthinking it & deep down does it just sound like I haven’t found the right person?

For the record we have NOT had sex. But he has NO issues sexting whatsoever.

However when I ask him to do a simple request - text to let me know if you're staying late at work so I don't think you got in a car accident or something - he can't do this.

3 times.

I even came up with a simple code game - like want fudge, yes / no (he likes fudge) - so he doesn't have to really think about his response if late & he still can't do it.

I understand working late, exhausted, etc and maybe rushing around.

I work in medical during COVID I oftentimes didn't have time to eat and yet I'd check my phone briefly even if in the washroom in case something happened with family (parents, brother).

And it's like he says one thing but his actions say very differently.

First off we have NOT had sex. We've sexted a bit.

Anyway he sometimes gets called into emergencies at work & I asked him to text me if he does. It's a simple request so I know he hasn't been in an accident or something.

.

He didn't do it the first time, okay. We talked about it & he promised he'd text me.

Second time, just a few days later, he's called in and AGAIN he doesn't text me.

He promised & promised up and down that if it happened again he'd text me. He says he wants a future with me, etc., etc. - we get along quite well otherwise - and said he'd text.

Third time and AGAIN he doesn't text me.

.

There's other little things he's done - it's not just this - that imply he doesn't respect me.

Like I'll link him something and instead of looking at it he'll just respond off the article (and been wrong). And other things, etc. it'd take too long to list all the little nuisances that are niggling the back of my mine.

.

But this not texting when he promises and promises is like fuck you.

If you really did mean what you said --- and I am someone raised to stand by my word, not spout empty valueless air --- you'd do it.