Am I wrong for blocking this guy I am starting to date who talks "big" but who, in reality, seems to be spouting nothing but empty air (for his gain)?

[Anonymous]

First off we have NOT had sex. We've sexted a bit.

Anyway he sometimes gets called into emergencies at work & I asked him to text me if he does. It's a simple request so I know he hasn't been in an accident or something.

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He didn't do it the first time, okay. We talked about it & he promised he'd text me.

Second time, just a few days later, he's called in and AGAIN he doesn't text me.

He promised & promised up and down that if it happened again he'd text me. He says he wants a future with me, etc., etc. - we get along quite well otherwise - and said he'd text.

Third time and AGAIN he doesn't text me.

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There's other little things he's done - it's not just this - that imply he doesn't respect me.

Like I'll link him something and instead of looking at it he'll just respond off the article (and been wrong). And other things, etc. it'd take too long to list all the little nuisances that are niggling the back of my mine.

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But this not texting when he promises and promises is like fuck you.

If you really did mean what you said --- and I am someone raised to stand by my word, not spout empty valueless air --- you'd do it.

No - You're Not in the Wrong

Maybe - You're in the Wrong

Yes - You're in the Wrong

[Anonymous]

I often tell my friends to get more attached to your standards and boundaries than you are to a man, that way, you’re always ready to leave that situation when it no longer serves you.


When I read what you wrote, immediately in my mind it sounds like you’re already compromising your boundaries. You asked for a simple task, that he repeatedly failed to do. This (along with whatever little things that are bothering you) give me the impression that you’re signing up for a lot of broken promises and disappointments. The deal breakers need to be exactly that — calling it off. Right now you are still relatively new to one another, haven’t hooked up, not too much attachment to the guy, so why not call it what it is and end it?


This just isn’t a good fit. You’ve given him repeated chances and have only been left with slaps in the face. I know the dating pool can be incredibly daunting as we get older, and at some point you just get tired of starting over again when something doesn’t work out. You’re ready to settle down, and it’s really nice to not only connect with a guy, and feel as though there’s potential to be off the market. However, this man is not showing you the qualities of being the right man, or even fit for a relationship in general. His actions matter more than his words, and based off what he’s showing, it’s just better off to write him off.