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Kind of a part 2 to this question.

We were discussing why men hate being Friendzoned, and why some women don't understand why men hate being Friendzoned and why it IS a "consolation prize." Here is everything that I said before in the other question:

"[A friendship] has to be organic. Men and women see friendships/relationships differently. Most men will separate friendships and relationships. Men will have their guy friends social circle, and their one woman who they date/marry at home.

Most men won't want friendships with women]because chances are very high that nothing will eventually "develop," and his feelings of infatuation won't just 'go away.' IF he has a female friend, he won't EVER try to ask her out or turn her into a girlfriend. Men do not ever cross that line. While women sometimes do sometimes turn friends into lovers.

Men don't want to "just be friends" with women they romantically like. Not now, not EVER. Men who say otherwise are just simps and orbiters who can't admit it. But they are. Men will usually equate being a partner as much higher status than a 'friend,' with a 'friend' being low-value, easily replaceable, and ultimately meaningless in that person (the woman's) life.

So if a woman rejects a man's romantic advances and asks to 'just be friends,' to some of those men, that means she just told that man that she thinks of him as inferior or unworthy of her. This is also why SOME men lash out and get angry. Those issues are all on them though, not the woman."

Do you agree or disagree with the question?

I work with my work partner almost everyday for a year now. I've always thought she was good looking but I brushed it aside to focus on my job. Now I'm starting to feel like I'm developing feelings for her. Or maybe it's just infatuation I don't know. What's the mature adult way to deal with this?

I'm talking the girl or guy you've known for years maybe a decade, the one who you've experienced so much with, hell even lost you virginity to or even studied/worked alongside with: would you still dump even that person, for someone better or intense feeling inside you (of infatuation or lust or love) for this new soulmate who's just crossed your path, unexpectedly and has taken your breath away, reeling feeling giddy.

Even if you don't show them that you're, you know... feeling those things. Ha; what if they're weren't. Even more awkward. Oh well.