Help me 😣😒🤕🤦?

[Anonymous]

I'm I in love with my friends with benefits, is it just infatuation or am I over thinking or do I want his tension to be and me. But my reasons, to why I'm asking. Well lately, and ever since I mentioned to him months ago about my fake boyfriend and how him and I are in a committed relationship. He's been giving me space and the respect. And I thank him for that. But it's also like he's like a ghost and I don't hear much from him, so I find myself doing things to get his attention or just acting like a baby and picking arguments with him. But then there are times where I may hit him up randomly. And my reasons why I cut him off and pulled back from him the first time. Because, all he wants is sex with me, and I'm no longer interested in that. And of course, he did what most guys would do, went to a other female. But him and I were able to remain and work on being just friends. I mean honestly I tried to get this man to come over just this past week, lol and he was giving me every excuse in the book but mention about my boyfriend. He's like where's your boyfriend at or what happened to your boyfriend lol. Then I said what do you mean where he's at, then he says. I thought we couldn't do anything anymore while your with him. But I don't see anything wrong with him just coming over to see me. I really didn't have any motives or intentions to sleep with him. But anyways- I have been in this man DMs a bit to much. I can't trying to fake and say that I'm in a relationship when I'm constantly hitting him up randomly. But you're feeling for some reason the farther the hands away from me the crazier I'm starting to feel. I DON'T need him, I guess I just want his attention but I know I shouldn't really be entertaining him. And you guys I definitely wouldn't be doing this if I actually had an actual boyfriend. Continue to keep reading updates to question.

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But I don't know why this separations from him is giving me anxiety nerves and stressing me out but also making me want to be close to him. please explain, because sooner or later he's going to start wondering or think it's himself if he hasn't already is this girl really in a relationship. Then ask me to have sex with him again. Ugh... Help.. ? And what does it mean when a guy says my babes.

[GoldenCage]

Friends with benefits is just a messed up concept that prevents you from moving on and having a decent relationship. It is poor boundaries with some one and poor attempt to use some one as a moving bow up doll. It always ends up in one feeling used or one falling in love. What a mess. I don't know why people create confusion and trauma in their lives.

[Asker]

Yes ma'am. That's why I decided to get rid of him

[perpetial]

I've been in the same position as you... exactly the same. What I did was I told him how I truly felt. He said he didn't feel the same and I took some time away from him. It really hurt his feelings but I needed the time. Then reached back out and asked him if we would ever have a chance, he said no again. And I am going to respect that. And now we're friends again and I have to say I'm working on moving on from him. But our communication is open.
Tell him how you feel. And if he's not interested he more than likely will want to stay friends since he's already your friend. And if he's not interested, I recommend dating even if it's causal. Go on a few dates with other guys to help yourself move on.

[PuNishant]

Girl you f ed
How about you had sex with him one more time
And then tell him you can't have this again as you might fall in love for him.
He will probably tell you that he likes you too.
It will be jackpot.

Worse thing he will start avoiding you. Then at least you can move on

[PuNishant]

But if you think all he want sex and you are not ok with that. You should leave him for good.
It will not go anywhere.
You will get hurt and it will be painful

[Asker]

That's the thing. He will be so confused and he may already be lol. But again.. it would be weird sleeping with him, and the same with him with me. If he's trying to respect then I'm in a relationship at least he said and boundaries for himself and I am too. I trust me I thought about hitting him up and tell him to come over for one last run. Hahah. But his last run would he want to run miles and miles and miles he doesn't have a stopping point, when it comes down to having sex with me. 7yrs with this.. Woah.. but I have to fight the devil I got this and I can do it. But, it's not about the physical part I just miss him and like when we actually just talked and he was more around. 😊😊

[PuNishant]

There is always a part of us remained stuck with them. This shows we are not made of rocks.
Hope you find your piece.
Sending you spritual powers 😝🙏🌸

[Asker]

Trust me I've been doing really good by fighting these urges as far as keeping a distance from him and honestly I may just have to block him for the moment

[PuNishant]

Wish you best of luck 👍

[Asker]

Thank you so very much but what does it mean when someone says my babes.

[PuNishant]

My girlfriend used to call me hubby before cheating on me 😂
Words have no meanings these days

[Asker]

Uh oh. And sorry she cheated

[PuNishant]

It could have been worse.
I'm glad I get rid of her earlier.

[Asker]

you deserve better than that 😊😊😊

[Anonymous]

FWBs don't work; someone always develops feelings and the other person usually doesn't.

[Asker]

It seems like mine's have gotten stronger ugh