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Don't get me wrong, I don't avoid other guys, and I get along just fine with other guys. But it seems that all my closest friends seem to all be women with the exception of like 2 or 3.

I'm not even necessarily effeminate, not by a long shot, but I'm not "as manly" as American society expects me to be. I don't mind playing sports with a few friends once in a while, but I definitely don't watch sports, and I don't know a lot about them besides a few basic rules. I also couldn't care less for anything car related. Sure, I can fix things around the house, but that's because I kind of have to, not because I'm "trying" to be manly.

My interests all tend to be associated with nerds or with geeks, neither of which are effeminate, but not manly either. Writing, drawing, singing, cooking, playing video games, analyzing TV shows/movies, reading, making comics, swimming, walking for exercise, etc.

This alone probably isn't why I tend to get along better with girls though. The reason is because I'm very expressive of my emotions and like to give people compliments, and among-st other guys this tends to come off as "gay."

Close guy friends also tend to insult each other a lot, and though I can appreciate it in moderation, in my opinion if excessive it can get old and FAST. And the majority of my male friends can't go without saying something like, "Hey what took you so long you fucking cock sucking son of a bitch" when seeing each other. Some may find it genuine and lovely among-st bros, but I was never a fan.

And as such... I get along better with girls, and my closest friends are almost all girls. We tease each other once in a while, but we can also conversate normally and compliment each other as well. Guys often seem to have like an 80% balance of just pure insulting, which turns me off.

Is this a bad thing though?

Basically, this friend of a friend (let’s call her Mary) came to a graduation party we were hosting at my apartment. I hadn’t seen her since the last time she came to visit my roommate a few years ago, which was also the first time we met. Back then I had a crush on her, but right after that we both got into long-term relationships. She shows up to our party and starts acting weird around me the whole time. I’ll go in-depth about the specific moments, but keep in mind my girlfriend is at the party and her boyfriend isn’t, as he’s from where she lives (different country). She started our conversation by asking me about my musical interests and so we chatted about music and stuff like that. I noticed she started fiddling with her hair and maintaining strong, prolonged eye contact while we’re talking. She’s also standing pretty close, closer than I’d expect in a conversation between two taken people. When we broke off, she often stared at me as I was talking to friends, even while she was mingling with other people. When I’d meet her gaze, she’d continue to stare and smile until I broke eye contact. A little later I hear from my girlfriend that Mary has been talking to her about how nice I was to her a few years back showing her around town, which was no doubt influenced by how I had a crush on her. Mary would also do things like jab me to help me out when I wasn’t paying attention during a drinking game and laugh at all of my jokes. When it came time to walk to the club, it was raining, and I got wet along with everybody else. She turned to me and said “you’re so wet” and brushed off the rain from my chest and arms (my girlfriend was in the bathroom when that happened). Later on in the night when I was dancing with my girlfriend and being affectionate with her, Mary kind of stopped acting the way she did earlier that night. The next morning when she said goodbye to my roommates and I (she spent the night), I was the only one she hugged besides her friend.