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Im not talking about settings where a short bald and overweight 50 year old stranger directly hits on an attractive 19 year old. That a no brainer on creepiness.

Im talking about being less polite to people in non romantic settings like waiting in line for coffee or getting a conversation on a subway (around lots of people). A 50 year old stranger should be able to have an innocent conversation with a 19 year old (maybe talks about his kids going to college) or something. Just as long he’s not saying or doing stupid then he’s not doing anything wrong. But if a person is unattractive (age, weight, looks, etc.) we tend to judge them more harshly.

I’m guilty of doing this myself. But I try to check myself. That person could turn out to be a genuine good friend. I think as society gets more sensitive to people with differences this would be a good thing to improve upon. That doesn’t mean being naive to strangers of course. But it means checking that unpleasant thought you have of that person and seriously asking if that’s fair and even reality?

I would super appreciate comments explaining your thoughts behind your answers! 😀

I have provided separate poll options for non-christians to participate too.

I've separated the options because I'm a christian and I've noticed christian friends answer one way while intent culture seems to answer another.

What I mean by a date is a rather low-commitment, getting-to-know you kind of hangout where the person who asked for the date told the other that they're interested romantically. I'm not talking about romantic dinner. Coffee dates, hanging out at a park, or just doing something fun all count as long as intentions are clear.

Tou should answer yes if you'd say that if you met someone, and you had a solid, enjoyable first conversation (more than small talk), and this person expressed interest in you, like that they also really enjoyed meeting you and would like to go on a date, that you would consider saying yes.

You should also answer yes if you'd say that you'd go on a date with an acquaintance who asked you out--one who you'd say that you weren't on a friendship level with yet.

It's a no answer if you would say that, on principle, you would decline to go on a date with someone who you didn't know as a friend first. People who say this often say that they need to be friends first to get to know who the person really is.