Im not talking about settings where a short bald and overweight 50 year old stranger directly hits on an attractive 19 year old. That a no brainer on creepiness.
Im talking about being less polite to people in non romantic settings like waiting in line for coffee or getting a conversation on a subway (around lots of people). A 50 year old stranger should be able to have an innocent conversation with a 19 year old (maybe talks about his kids going to college) or something. Just as long he’s not saying or doing stupid then he’s not doing anything wrong. But if a person is unattractive (age, weight, looks, etc.) we tend to judge them more harshly.
I’m guilty of doing this myself. But I try to check myself. That person could turn out to be a genuine good friend. I think as society gets more sensitive to people with differences this would be a good thing to improve upon. That doesn’t mean being naive to strangers of course. But it means checking that unpleasant thought you have of that person and seriously asking if that’s fair and even reality?
Im talking about being less polite to people in non romantic settings like waiting in line for coffee or getting a conversation on a subway (around lots of people). A 50 year old stranger should be able to have an innocent conversation with a 19 year old (maybe talks about his kids going to college) or something. Just as long he’s not saying or doing stupid then he’s not doing anything wrong. But if a person is unattractive (age, weight, looks, etc.) we tend to judge them more harshly.
I’m guilty of doing this myself. But I try to check myself. That person could turn out to be a genuine good friend. I think as society gets more sensitive to people with differences this would be a good thing to improve upon. That doesn’t mean being naive to strangers of course. But it means checking that unpleasant thought you have of that person and seriously asking if that’s fair and even reality?
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