Is it fair that people often correlate someone’s attractiveness (or lack thereof) to their “creepiness” in non romantic situations?

[Anonymous]

Im not talking about settings where a short bald and overweight 50 year old stranger directly hits on an attractive 19 year old. That a no brainer on creepiness.

Im talking about being less polite to people in non romantic settings like waiting in line for coffee or getting a conversation on a subway (around lots of people). A 50 year old stranger should be able to have an innocent conversation with a 19 year old (maybe talks about his kids going to college) or something. Just as long he’s not saying or doing stupid then he’s not doing anything wrong. But if a person is unattractive (age, weight, looks, etc.) we tend to judge them more harshly.

I’m guilty of doing this myself. But I try to check myself. That person could turn out to be a genuine good friend. I think as society gets more sensitive to people with differences this would be a good thing to improve upon. That doesn’t mean being naive to strangers of course. But it means checking that unpleasant thought you have of that person and seriously asking if that’s fair and even reality?

It’s not fair but this will never change.

It’s not fair but this can change slowly slowly

It’s fair

[Anonymous]

It's a human thing I guess... it's not about looks but maybe about the first impression to judge the book by it's cover subconsciously... but thoughtful people like us regret the judging the book by it's cover sooner or later and try to be more kinder when realisation hits...

[RoseWilliams2412]

I think you are right. It's not fair. I mean, just because he is a bit unattractive (no offense, sorry) doesn't mean he is creepy. And on that note, even attractive guys can be creepy.

[Asker]

It’s weird how teen girls are more open minded and then something happens to women when they hit their 20s.

Anyway you should always have a guard up. An adult man (who is a stranger) should almost never have a good reason to chat with you unless it’s something really important. But once you are 16 and likely get a job than that’s a different story. You will interact with lots of older and/or unattractive people.

[RoseWilliams2412]

Thank You for the advice.

[Hangry06]

That's how humans and society works.

[Asker]

Yes but that’s approach is been used to justify treating people shitty for other reasons (sexism, racism, etc.).

This is more of a general issue. Also I myself have unfairly judged unattractive people when I was younger. But now I think twice about it. Put that crappy thought aside and just pay more attention to what they are actually saying and doing before passing judgment.

[Hangry06]

Well i have been a victim of that and i will still be a victim of that. I have to accept that it's unfair and that's life

[ChiPaPa]

It is what it is.