If I follow a girl I used to talk to on social media, would she think I'm trying to come back into her life?

[Anonymous]

[OlderAndWiser]

Isn't that really what you are trying to do, and you are simply concerned about looking too obvious?

[Asker]

Yep. I wonder if she follows me back does that mean she is probably interested in reconnecting?

[Anonymous]

Why would you reach to her if you don't want to come back to her life? Your statement is incoherent. Your actions have to speak your words and viceversa.

[Asker]

I do want to come back into her life hence why I followed her

[Opinion Owner]

then come back to her life. it's easy! where's the problem?

[Asker]

The problem is the other party. I can't just come back into her life if she doesn't want me in her life

[Opinion Owner]

How do you know she does not want you in her life? maybe she is waiting for your message..

[Asker]

I sent her a text and she didn't respond. Don't you think no response is a response?

[Opinion Owner]

it depends what text you sent her?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe she never got it.. once I wrote to someone I liked and thought I had sent it but then my friend deleted it.. never trust the other.

[Asker]

Hey (Her Name), it's (My Name). It's been a while, how have you been?

[Opinion Owner]

Are you sure you sent it? I did it with my crush (still crush) but my friend deleted it and he never got my message :(

[Opinion Owner]

Now I am leaving soon this place and will never see him so guess what

[Asker]

I'm positive that I sent it and I'm positive she received it. There is always a chance she didn't see it but that's not likely.

[Opinion Owner]

Which platform?

[Asker]

Text message. I sent it directly to her phone

[Opinion Owner]

Did you get the blue check she received it? I delete the chats /numbers.
Did you met her in person after the sending of your message? How is she acting?

[Asker]

Yes
I haven't met her in person. I see her on social media still posting

[DishLady]

If she's all sensitive like the majority of the 18-25yos today... then yeah.

[MsProsperity]

She’ll think you’re desperate for her

[Asker]

Why would she follow back?

[MsProsperity]

Might be because she knows you, nothing serious

[Asker]

You follow back every guy you know even if it's a guy from the past or you want nothing to do with him?

[MsProsperity]

Unfortunately I don’t use social media. You desperately love the girl and you wanna chat with her so do it and find out if she’s into you or not. Come on life is too short. Shoot your shot

[Asker]

Honestly I respect that you don't use social media. I admire that. Anyway I shot her a text and got no response. I guess what you said was spot on

[MsProsperity]

I’m sorry. Is she online? Or did she see your text?

[Asker]

She is definitely online because she's always posting. If she saw my text I'm not certain but I know it went through on my end. She has a kid so she may be busy but she is still posting so clearly she ignored it and I have no problem with that

[MsProsperity]

Maybe she’s protecting her relationship with the baby daddy. I say unfollow her and focus on somebody else

[Asker]

Yeah, you're probably right. She got a lot going on as she posted online about her problems. I think unfollowing her might be excessive as it just shows I care. Even if I do care I don't want to give her the satisfaction.

[bubblyanne]

She probably wants to reconnect.

[Asker]

I'm not sure about that. I texted her and got no response

[bubblyanne]

Give it time. Try messaging her on social media.

[Asker]

I did. I asked her if her phone number was still the same and she said yes. I asked her if she was busy and then told her I was gonna text her.

[avery58]

Yeah

[Asker]

Does her following back mean she may be interested in reconnecting?

[avery58]

Probably

[Asker]

If she is not interested in talking, would it serve no purpose for her to follow me back?