Would it be dumb to follow this girl again (I used to follow her but then she unfollowed me so I did the same)?

[xJayleenx]

I first met this Syrian girl when I was 13 (I was more assertive and she was more shy) and we were friends but not the kind of friends that hung out after school because my parents were strict and my dad was Islamophobic lol. I did help her with language arts by writing a bunch of flashcards and putting it in her mailbox I was 14 in highschool and we even talked through kik. But I started becoming more and more shy and socially anxious to the point that I didn’t even look her in the eyes and everyone else and I also changed highschools so we grew apart. I find myself thinking about her wondering how she is doing because I still care about her I don’t know why she has not contacted me in years makes me feel a bit bad that I’m the only one that cares about people from my past. I know that her and her friends unfollowed me on Instagram I don’t know why maybe they think something bad about me, but I just want to see how she is doing and stuff. I heard that she graduated somewhere else in highschool too. My family did say that she was using me but I don’t know 😭.

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I mean would it look wrong if I follow her on Instagram again? I’ve been too shy to

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But we unfollowed each other years ago (I was 17) I think

[Sisters_Of_Time]

I would say so, it shows how uncertain you are of what the right choice was, it is very confusing all around! Is a follow that important?

[xJayleenx]

I just want to text her through Instagram because I don’t have her number and she doesn’t seem to use facebook

[Sisters_Of_Time]

But you unfollowed her. What message would that send her?

[xJayleenx]

I was 17 when I did that now I’m 21. Are you sure that that would send her a bad message? She unfollowed me first and when I was 17 I got offended by that so I did the same but it’s been almost 4 years now.

[xJayleenx]

I just felt bad so I did the same at that age

[xJayleenx]

I still have her as a friend of facebook though but it doesn’t seem like she uses it

[Sisters_Of_Time]

If she puts as much importance in a follow as you, I think it would be bad. You know her better so you know how she would react. But unfollowing out of spite and wanting to message her are two contradicting actions. Just follow her back at least...

[xJayleenx]

I was 17 😭 ….

[xJayleenx]

I lost my grandfather, changed schools, and was really going through it

[xJayleenx]

On top of that I had serious self image issues it was bad.

[Sisters_Of_Time]

Try to message her and see what's up! :)

[alance99]

Going by your description she seems to be a cold person but there is a 1% chance that she might have changed but doesn't want to make first move just the way you are thinking about her, so there is no harm you can give it a try

[xJayleenx]

Dhe became very outgoing throughout highschool all the shyness went away and she always wore her hair nicely but now she wears a headscarf. Hell back then she was smoking hookah and people said that she was bad lmao 😂 but deep down I still care about her why does no one care about me 🥲

[alance99]

I think you should move on

[xJayleenx]

Why? I just want to know how she is

[xJayleenx]

We aren’t exes lol we’re both straight women 😂

[alance99]

I know you are straight, but she might try spread rumours about you that jayleen messaged and i am so important

[xJayleenx]

Lmao damn are other females really like that? I hope not

[alance99]

If you message her be ready for negativity that she might try to spread about you in her friend circle

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm confused. I thought your family was Muslim. How is your dad islamophobic?

[Jamie05rhs]

Also, how was she using you?

[xJayleenx]

No they’re christian

[xJayleenx]

About that im not sure

[Jamie05rhs]

@xJayleenx But you said that you used to be Muslim.

[xJayleenx]

I myself converted when I was 14 my parents made my life miserable so I quit and now I have no religion deep down inside though I’ll always have a soft spot for Islam but im not anything right now. It’s just easier that way. Maybe when I gain my freedom though.

[Jamie05rhs]

@xJayleenx Oh, okay; I gotcha.

[Jamie05rhs]

And yeah, I think it would be really good for you to gain your freedom. I think you should have the opportunity to live on your own. It's very empowering.
Actually, it would be really good if you can do that for a while before you get married. Have your own place and your own space.

[Jamie05rhs]

I personally don't really agree with Islam. I respect their beliefs, but I personally think it's too patriarchal. But I mean no ill will, offense, or hate towards anyone.

[xJayleenx]

I personally don’t agree with everything either like for example pologamy but thankfully not many people do that anymore. Polygamy also happend in the bible too with Abraham. There’s always something controversial in every religion but it’s the only religion that makes sense to me.

[xJayleenx]

The best thing that I could do now is save my boyfriend says that we’ll just have to wait a year and 4 months im really hoping that that is true

[Jamie05rhs]

@xjayleenx Yeah, but I'm saying that you should have your own place before you live with him. I think that it would be healthy for you.

[Wise4myage]

No no really, but why follow her again anyway?

[xJayleenx]

I don’t have her number so I wanted to text her somehow because it seems like she doesn’t use Facebook

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

It's hard to say that she changed, but giving it a try would be okay and see if you can reconnect with her

[pizzalovershouse]

Yes why bother if they don't care to be friends

[888theGreat]

you assertive? Ok , a lot of arabs are terrorists and it was arabs that attacked on 911. Most middle east arabs do hate America and Israel.

[Debbie14217]

try it see how it goes