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He used to love me a lot and I rejected. He was devastated and even years later had beef with me. We both agreed to be fwbs, somehow he was possessive of me.

But the issue is for him, he just wants consent and then not do the act. He would constantly ask for sex, when I say, say at work, he would say he will leave on 2 days and wants it today. Makes me say yes and then chicken out. This is a very common pattern that I have seen.

This is not just for sex. He would ask me to do him a favour or offer me to help and then chicken out. He would ask to eat lunch with me if I’m alone and all what he wants is ‘yes’ and then chicken out. He would offer to walk me home and he wants me to say ‘yes’ and then chicken out. Also I have seen him staring at me from a different building/distance, without talking to me and very fidgety around me.
Also he always questions me if I’m alone to the extent of asking me to take a picture to ensure I’m alone.

He acts like he doesn’t care but can’t see me even talking to other men at all. He freaks the hell out when he sees me talk to another guy. Me talking to another guy is such a pain on his ass that he calls my potential dates to bitch about me. And when someone ask about me he would say ‘earlier we used to talk really well but now she doesn’t’.

Even with no actual experience I still believe I fall under this category, I wonder if I need to manifest the law of attraction or something even though I do think that’s bs.

You know when you have a gut feeling? I’ve been on and off the dating apps for years, it’s come to the point where I’m not as interested & I swipe on matches/reply to msgs every few days. Dating apps are the only way I’ve tried dating as I dont have a social life but dating apps have been successful for quite a few people I know. I’ve never had a real relationship, I saw someone for a few months maybe 5 years ago & something told me after I saw him that’d I’d be single for a long time. With him it felt like settling & I refuse to ever be with someone that made me feel like that again.

I had to use dating apps bc I’m not very friendly & I don’t get approached in person. I’m told I’m cute/attractive & I will say I have a very low sex drive (haven’t masturbated or had sex in 5 years). I don’t think this is a huge deal considering this isn’t something that will be an issue that early on, a guy can’t just look at my profile/see me in person & know that right off the bat.

I get matches (never been the issue) but it’s always: ghosting, fizzling out, lack of interest (can go both ways), feelings not reciprocated, just not a good match & some guys are just crazy. I just always have a gnawing feeling like guys aren’t attracted to me, I’d get told once in a while that some guy looked at me/found me cute but they never do anything about it. And I don’t either hence why I’m posting this

TLDR: based off the description, is this something that’s unlucky in love?