How do I get over a guy that's only using me for my body? If it's only sex, is it a problem?

[KittyKatLady]

I went out with a guy a few times in the last eight months. I've come to realize that he's a snake who was emotionally manipulating me just to get laid. However, I don't seem to be able to get over him and, in some ways, yearn for his contact, although I know it's always going to be on his terms or whenever HE wants it. For context: he asked me out many times, which I did show up for, but the one time I asked him to CONFIRM if one of our dates was going to happen, he canceled it, saying he was busy, even though he was the one who asked me out and suggested it to happen on that day. I don't know, it just feels like he has an issue with that, with people taking the lead when they hang out with him. Anyway, long story short, it sucks, and I hate myself for it, but I still feel compelled to go out with him — of course, if he reaches out looking for sex again. If it's just sex, is it a problem? Will I be sabotaging myself with this?

[SixFootSexy]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/QLXhUKVd4fo

Woman, you have found yourself in a situationship.

[KittyKatLady]

ah shit, here we go again...

[SixFootSexy]

LOL indeed. Insert GTA meme.

[MasterKS]

I think you should be practical and keep the things only for sex or move on, these are the best options.

[KittyKatLady]

Thank you, you're the only person who actually gave me productive advice.

[MasterKS]

@KittyKatLady just being honest.

[DishLady]

Back away from the P. Just leave the guy alone. Why would you keep going there if you want out?

[KittyKatLady]

Why should I be the one who gets to "leave the guy alone" if he is the one pursuing me? The real issue to me is knowing y'all opinion on whether or not is acceptable to hook up with him again when he eventually reaches out because I, FOR SURE, ain't begging for it. I think I'm too embarrassed to ask one of my friends that. Anyway, regarding your question, I don't know. I think I liked the hookup.

[Anonymous]

Why is he manipulating u? U are making yourself available

[KittyKatLady]

Because he played me? At first, he was kind and loving, indicating that he liked me, but he wasn't honest about his expectations - even when I asked! - although I was very open from the start. Mind you, I didn't want anything serious, so it's not like I scared him off. This guy's behavior has been inconsistent and somewhat confusing. He initially pursued me but then exhibited patterns of inconsistency and distance. His behavior of canceling plans last minute and then exhibiting coldness after moments of intimacy suggests some level of emotional immaturity or emotional manipulation to me

[Opinion Owner]

He is immature. How do u both look

[KittyKatLady]

Good. Love to see men getting away with acting like high schoolers and even more so when that behavior is projected onto a woman who was simply into him. Is that a crime?
Anyway, I'll admit that I'm at fault for allowing him to do me dirty like that.

[Opinion Owner]

How do u both look

[jahaims]

Therapy

[KittyKatLady]

Thanks, but I'm already on it. Maybe he could learn a thing or two from you.