How do you get over a guy who played you twice?

[Anonymous]

me and this guy used to talk and I thought he was the great guy he made himself look like but all we ever did was make out and never actually hangout. the only time we went out was once to the movies. anyway I realized what he wanted and I avoided him and stopped talking to him after we had an argument and he didn't do anything to try to bring us back together.

recently he had been trying to start talking to me again and always texting me or IMing me and I thought that he had changed. I wish someone could slap me for thinking that. nope..still the same guy and I fell for his tricks again. once I gave in and made out with him one night, he never text me that whole week and when we would see each other on campus he wouldn't talk to me..he would just give that stupid head nod.

i wanna get over him so soo bad and move on. the funny thing is that there are a lot of guys trying to talk to me but I keep blowing them off because of him. so what do I do? I also want to get back at him for treating me bad

[CuddlyCarla]

Don't get back at him. Bad people are a dime a dozen, don't be one of them. It says nothing about your character to be vengeful and act on that, no matter how hurt you are. The guy is lame, move on. Why would you continue to have feelings for someone that obviously doesn't care about yours? Find a man who respects you and learn from this. Don't make out with someone just because you can. Build something special with someone first and don't give too much of yourself too fast because people will take advantage of it or take you for granted. If you are interested in something other than sex, tone it down and don't put yourself out there like that. Don't blow off other potentially great opportunities because of a person that doesn't really care about you, which his actions have proven, regardless of what he says. It's what someone DOES that reveals their true intentions, of course he'll say anything to get you to pay attention to him so you can make out some more. You are worth more than that. Go date some other guys and find someone that will be there for you the way you want someone to be.

[Asker]

thank you so much for that :)

i feel like its so hard though. I have cried so much over him and he doesn't seem to give a f*** about me. its really hard, you know. but I guess in time I will move on to something better.

[nevergivinguponu]

This is a form of emotional abuse or something. You need to delete him from everything. Stop liking this bad boy. He must be very attractive and funny to keep getting you back. You know you need to stop but can't, so here's your intervention: Save a message in your draft file on your phone and the next time he texts you send it. Let your text be something simple like I'm out with friends and catch up with you soon. Same thing when your online. Let him go there's a great guy wanting to meet you but he can't because of this guy.

[LuvULotz123]

Honey, I have been there done that! Just like you have! Twice! You have to get over him though, he is obviously not worth you or your time! Next time he wants that thing from you, make sure you tell him NO WAY! Don't let him use you! You deserve way better.

[Dick0550]

There's nothing you can do besides grow up. He's obviously not worth your time, and the best bet is to find someone who is the opposite of him. Bad relationships are only good for one thing, and that is a learning experience. Being burned twice now should be proof enough that you just need to learn your lesson on this on, and move on. Revenge isn't gonna fix anything.

[MrOracle]

You know what you need to do. You just don't want to face up to it.

[Asker]

actually I dont.

[MrOracle]

You need to leave this guy, forget about him, and have no contact with him at all. Delete him from your phone and computer, etc.

Then, when you're ready, move on to a better guy who is going to treat you right.

[whatever1493]

gettin back at him.. do th same he did o you you will feel amazing, and he will feel like sh*t for being such a f***ing idiot

[petertatts]

dont let him mess you a third time, go out more and find more guys :)

[Anonymous]

At least you didn't sleep with him! Go out with one of those other guys.

[Asker]

i know right. thank God!

[sumina7]

Clearly a man who is emotionally handicapped.

[Asker]

what do you mean exactly?

[sumina7]

He is incapable of emotional involvement (probably due to psychological problems) and normal social interaction. He seems to have an unreal view of male-female relationship and is unable to connect, except sexually (basically like in the animal kingdom). You can not do anything about it. Only psychological counselling can help him. He desrves a woman who uses him.

[Zinnymeow]

Forget about this guy

He don't deserves you