The best way to get over my guy friend?

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We’ve been friends for over 3 years now and it’s starting to get harder for me to stop liking him. We message each other everyday, we talk on the phone almost everyday.. we obviously hang out. I’m very obvious in liking him, I flirt with him a lot and I even told him I had an emotional attachment towards him (which is a whole diff story) & he seemed completely fine with it. I joked that he could admit that he has a crush on me but he said that he doesn’t and that at the moment he only wants to focus on himself. I 100% respect that and I’ve been talking to other guys for dates etc to help myself not be stuck on him without affecting our friendship.

The problem is that we spend a lot of time together… when we talk on the phone he also flirts and banters with me a lot. Today I mentioned that a co worker had asked me out and he seemed unbothered but then he really started flirting with me and making a lot of sexual jokes about us being together. He then started to open up about his ex and how they would always spend time together.. how they did the same exact things him and I do.. like watching movies together and him getting me into his interests. He then admitted that he was telling me things he never told his closest friend.. I had a moment where I realized it was going to be so incredibly hard for me to move on from the idea of being with him..

when he’s saying stuff like that.. confiding in me & flirting :( I realize that He's probably just using me bc I’m the closest thing to a relationship without him being in one… but it’s getting tough.

otherwise I think he’s a really great friend and I don’t want to lose him either.. any suggestions on how I can just move on? Without getting my hopes up anymore.
(I should also mention that he has a lot of female friends who he prob talks & flirts with as well.. so I wouldn’t say I’m special, but I know I’m the only female friend he talks to hours on the phone with..)
The best way to get over my guy friend?
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